Re: Lost my baby -- Questions
From: Amy (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 16 May 2002 03:27:55 -0500 (CDT)
I, too, am skeptical. Three months is a long time to go without things
like morning sickness. Not impossible, but unlikely. What about the
enlarged uterus from the fetus?
And as mentioned by Kristin, why was so much of protocol broken? One or
two mistakes, sure, but that's at least 3 people who overlooked
something BIG. Most of the people that I know go for the Cover Your
Derriere policy, which is to have the test results in their hot little
hands to be absolutely certain. Malpractice Insurance is not cheap.
What hospital was this at?
Who was your surgeon?
Who was your doctor?
Why were you recommended for the hysterectomy? Because of the irregular
bleeding and pain?
Did the doctor diagnose you with anything, and if so, what?
Out of curiosity, what diagnostic procedures were done to determine that
you needed a hysterectomy?
Its a story that really does tug on the heartstrings, and touches all of
us in our deepest fears, that we will never be able to have children,
and there is nothing we can do about it. Now I know weird things
happen, but this really is a little too out there for me.
At Wed, 15 May 2002, anonymous wrote:
>
>I was having alot of pain, cramps and irregular bleeding over the last
>few years. Also weight gain and facial hair. My doctor finally
>recommended a hysterectomy but could not schedule it for 4 months. When
>I went in last week and had it done, everything went O.K. but when I
>woke up the nurse said I had been pregnant and they removed the fetus
>with the uterus. I was about 13 weeks along. I am devestated, I am 38
>and had wanted a baby all my life. I never could have children because
>of my irregular periods and hormone levels and had finally resigned
>myself to never being a mother. Now that I find this out I am over the
>edge. I cannot fathom that I actually had a child, inside me that would
>have grown and become my own child to raise and have. And they took
>that away from me, without even any options. I cried and cried and they
>gave me shots to calm me down but nothing can make me feel better. One
>nurse came in and I asked if they could tell was my baby a boy or a
>girl, so I could give them a name and mourn their little life, and she
>said they couldn;t tell even if they had looked at that far along. I
>said, what do you mean "if you had looked?" didnt you SEE the baby when
>you removed the uterus? And I asked if there was any way I could see the
>baby even thought I am sure it would have been very small, and she said
>"we don't keep products of conception, we throw them out." Now I have
>nightmares of my baby being thrown in a trash can like they never even
>mattered. I have nightmares of me on the operating table and hearing a
>baby crying in the trash can and seeing a janitor come take the can out
>and dump it in the dumpster and I am screaming and can't get to him in
>time. I wanted to have a burial place for the baby to know we can go
>and place flowers and think of her (I decided it was probably a girl, in
>my mind). My husband and I went out and bought a lamb roast at the
>grocery store (to remember our little Lost Lamb) and we wrapped it in a
>pink baby blanket and buried it in the field behind our house. We had a
>stone carved with the name we wanted to give our baby, Clarissa Anne.
>And we put the stone at the burial site in the field so we can go and
>place flowers for our little Lamb on special days.
>
>Please don't get any surgery unless you have a ultrasound and a
>pregnancy blood test first. You might never get another chance.
>
>Cari
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