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Re: Very depressed, Please help...need advice.

From: Kimberly (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon, 18 Feb 2002 15:52:22 -0600 (CST)

Hi! I'm so sorry you are feeling so bad. This darn condition can just be the pits. ;(

I don't have a hair problem, so I can't say that I can help a lot there - but from your post I did notice that it does not seem your dr. is treating you very aggresively. 500mg on Glucophage is not very much - perhaps next time you see him/her they will raise your dosage if you haven't seen many results. Also, there are other medications that help with slowing the hair growth, as the previous post talked about. I would think that unless you are trying to get pregnant you should be on one of them. Also, there are a couple of birth control pills that can help. Unless you are financially strapped and don't have health insurance, there is no reason you should not be doing everything possible to conquer what you can not control - so that you can feel better about yourself and get on with your life. Seeing another dr. or talking to your current one more assertively is a small price to pay to get your self-esteem and happiness back. this is not your fault - none of it - and there are options available to you - just do your research and find a dr. who will try everything they can to help you.

Second thought - it seems you've been seeking treatment for just a couple months - and it's important to keep in mind that it can take a LONG time to see really astounding results. Two months is simply not long enough to know if you are having successful treatment or not. I know it's frustrating to have to wait when every day seems like an eternity - but on the bright side it also means there is hope somewhere down the road.

The last thing to keep in mind is that there are many dr.s and scientists trying to come up with more effective treatments for all of the symptoms we are suffering, and since you are young there is a good chance that someday you will not have to suffer at all. We have made a lot of progress in just the last 5 years, imagine where we'll be in another 5 or 10!

I would also like to add that perhaps you are being snappy at your boyfriend, not because you are not happy with yourself etc., but because he obviously doesn't 'get' what is going on with you, and you know in your heart that if he was really the man for you, he would. there are many men who would take the time to really understand what is going on - and maybe your guy is one of them, but your not letting him in - or maybe he doesn't care and never will. You are the only one that can answer that - but until you do, I have a feeling you will continue being irritated at him and at yourself. I can assure you that is no way to spend the rest of your life - so have a heart-to-heart with him and figure out if he's ever gonna help you feel better about yourself or not. Yes, it's true that self-love and acceptance has to start in our own hearts - but there's simply no doubt that the people around us can make it harder or easier.

I so hope you feel better. Keep coming back to this board so you know you are not alone. 

--
Kimberly


At Mon, 18 Feb 2002, anonymous wrote:
>
>Hi everybody,
>
>I am 25 years old and have had PCOS since I was 15 and have a lot of
>trouble with the hair growth.  I have hair everywhere and it is really
>depressing.  I cry a lot and get very upset most of the time.  I was put
>on GlucophageXR 500mg, I don't see any difference yet and also have been
>using Vaniqua for a little over 2 months.  I am in a relationship and
>have been for about almost 3 years and the hair growth realy bothers me.
>I have told my boyfriend about it but not entirely.  I have told him
>that I have hair but he doesn't know how I have to deal with it and how
>much it affects me.  He says that he loves me and doesn't care about
>that.  I have to shave every time we see each other and I have to
>basically shave my whole body (chest,breasts,tummy, legs) and it is
>really embarrasing.  The hair is so dark and thick.  I have to do a
>really god job or you feel the stuble.  This includes my face, I have to
>shave my face every day including at night if I am going out somewhere.
>This really lowers my self-esteem.  There are days I feel very beautiful
>and then there are days where I feel really bad.  My bad days are make
>me feel much worse than my good days actually make me feel better.
>Sometimes when it gets cold, I get goosebumps and feel the hair coming
>out of my sin and it hurts sometimes.  It is really beginning to bother
>me and I get very moody and get in to a lot of arguments with my
>boyfriend.  I snap sometimes and get very upset and very emotional.  I
>don't know if this is PCOS related or just maybe I have problems...I
>don't know what to do.  I feel very insecure all the time and I know
>that he doesn't really understand what is going on with me.  This is
>causing alot of problems with my relationship and I do not know what to
>do.  I just feel that I am not a happy person and feel miserable and I
>also feel that I am making him miserable in the process.  I know that
>you can't make anyone else happy until you are happy with yourself and I
>am not and do not know how to do that.
>
>Please help(sorry so long) any advise would help.



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