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Re: Supportive husband
From: Koolaide (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 24 Jan 2002 17:48:43 -0600 (CST)
Wow !! What a guy she got...you are so wonderful. Maybe...send her
flowers to work with a request for a date and have the date at home so
you can both cry..order in food and just let it out. She will have to
face this eventually. I can understand some of her pain though. When I
first found out I was pcos, I asked my husband if he wanted to divorce
me to marry someone who could have kids. He just about fell over saying
no. There is alot of guilt with this syndrome. Has she done as much
research as you have? There is life without kids...my hubby and I don't
have kids and are so happy. Don't get me wrong...we would love to hear
little voices in our home, but we will get by. If all else fails, show
her this site and this board, we will try to talk to her. Print out the
responses you get and show them to her. I do wish you all the
best....you are a great guy and she is very lucky. My fingers are
crossed. Please keep us posted as to how things go.
Bonnie
At Wed, 23 Jan 2002, anonymous wrote:
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>I'm sorry to be posting anonymously but it is to protect the privacy of
>my wife. I'm not even sure if I shoud even be posting to this board but
>I somehow feel compelled to seek further advice.
>A little over a wek ago my wife started seeming depressed, alot. When
>we finally sat down and talked to each other she said something that I
>never thought I'd hear from her. She told me she wanted a divorce, and
>her reason being that "she didn't want to be married anymore". After a
>while she came out and gave me the real reason, she has PCOS. I'd never
>heard of this before. I know that before we got married she said she
>had fertility problems but I was under the impression that we would be
>able to have children as long as some sort of hormonal treatment was
>applied. But I never knew how serious it really was. She said that she
>can't be married anymore knowing that we can never have what a married
>couple wants, children.
>Since then I've been reading as much as possible on PCOS. It seems that
>there is a chance but it costs quite alot of money. To me it would be
>worth it. I'd take on a second job just in order to pay for the
>treatments and hospital visits needed to accomplish this. I love my
>wife.
>What I need advised on is how should I comfort my wife? I'm scared to
>talk to her about this, she cries every time the subject is brought up
>and I can't bare to see her crying. I want to let her know that it is
>her that I married and not the idea of having children, though I really
>do want children, but I want her more. No time sems like the right time
>to talk to her, it's all I can do when we lie in bed at night to not cry
>about this. We are a young couple, around age 26 each, and we have been
>married for over 2 years, I'm afraid that I'll never see the third year
>come to pass. I want to be supportive to my wife and give her what she
>needs/wants to make it thru this, but I don't want to lose her. Does
>anyone have any advice on how I can be more supportive to her without
>making her think of not being able to have children while doing so?
>Thank you.
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