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Re: Noticing Other Women With PCOS...From: Barbra (anonymous@obgyn.net)Tue, 22 Jan 2002 04:34:00 -0600 (CST)
At Tue, 22 Jan 2002, anonymous wrote: > >At Mon, 21 Jan 2002, Chris wrote: >> >>Hi Ladies- >> >>I remember a thread about this quite awhile ago...I was out yesterday >>and saw a woman who could have been a poster child for PCOS. Thinning >>hair (she was nearly bald), hirsutism, pitted skin, very overweight...it >>looked to me like she has probably had PCOS forever and has never had it >>treated in any way. This woman seems to be the ideal Metformin and >>spironolactone candidate. I was so conflicted. On one hand, I wanted >>to tell her about PCOS and tell her to see a doctor about it...I thought >>maybe she has no idea all of these symptoms she has are related (after >>all, I didn't for a long time) and maybe she'll get to the doctor, get >>on meds, change her diet, and feel at least a little better. On the >>other hand, I didn't want to offend her by "noticing" her physical >>traits. Plus, maybe she'd never get treatment anyway and I would have >>just offended her for nothing. I actually considered going back to the >>store where she works and secretly leaving a printout about PCOS on her >>desk. But then I worried she would be freaked out/hurt that someone who >>worked with her had left it, and I wouldn't want to make going to work >>everyday uncomfortable. Ugh! What to do? What do you all think about >>this? >> >>Curious- >>-Chris > >You aren't a specialist,and you are not in any postition to selectively >chose someone and inform them that they may have this syndrome. > >Just because this woman has thinning hair and is obese and some excess >hair,does not mean that she has the syndrome. >Possibly ,she can have some thyroid abnormality,she can have another >illness. >So she has some pitting on her face.???//So do alot of people! >This is getting to be ridiculous. >Some women now are going to go to shopping malls and pick and chose whom >to diagnose?Half of the women in my town are obese and have thinning >hair-do I assume that all have this syndrome? > >I would say,'keep your nose out of it'. >If it were a friend or a collegue,then by all means,it wouldn't hurt to >suggest the disorder,but we cannot go around and misinform people. > >I am certain that this woman has a doctor,and if she looks like the >poster child for PCOS,then I am certain that her doctor is already >looking at the causes. >There is nothing worse that being told you have some syndrome. >Women with hairloss,obesity,acne,hirtuism-have enough low self esteem. >To start to go around and tell people that "you noticed that she has >some hair loss",can be devestating. >You should know better than that. >To leave a mysterious print-out on her desk is obsurd.This can cause >alot of conflict in the office.It is like getting a note saying you have >body odour in a nice way. > >I found this message very disturbing-as when I had cancer,the last thing >I wanted people to ask me about,was my hairloss. >Just leave her be please! Hello Anonymous, I found YOUR message to be disturbing! I think that if someone can help someone by offering some advice-then by all means- they should do it.They may be doing the other person a favour. I don't think this woman would get offened in the least if it was presented to her from the person who seen her in the shop,therfore,the two can relate. I think a nice way of going around it,is to introduce yourself to the woman and ask her if she would mind if you offered her some advice.Don't mention hairloss at the beginning,but start off with "I really don't mean to intrude,and I hope your don't mind,but you present with some of the same issues as I do".-"I have this problem with PCOS,and I just noticed that you and I have some similar traits".Then see if she is open to a conversation with you.There is never any harm in being honest and trying to help someone.Sometimes you may just save a life-this woman could be going thru the most horrible times,and with you offering well informed advice-at best,it could only help her,-and at worst-so,she gets a little offeneded.You can then sleep without a conscious. If this is bothering you,tell her! It is true ,that I am finding myself now looking at other woman and wondering if they have the syndrome.But,I would only offer advice to someone that does present with the above traits. Persoanlly,what harm can that do? You may well be saving someone from going thru,what we as women are,and as women,we should try and help each other. God Bless you Chris for caring!
-- Sincerely, Barbra Camara
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