PCOS Messages for January, 2002: Re: Am i being deceitful or I am wise to wait????(long but not too long)

Re: Am i being deceitful or I am wise to wait????(long but not too long)

From: Panacea (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed, 9 Jan 2002 09:48:14 -0600 (CST)

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At Wed, 9 Jan 2002, anonymous wrote: >
>not be able to handle it)...but then again i dont want to tell him
>before he has seen me in person and get really bad images in his head!
>Any advice....its eating at me really bad..:( thanks

I knew my husband for about three years online before we ever met face-to-face. He was married when we first met, in 1995, and lived cross-country from me. We were just friends at first. That became best friends [online]. At some point we found ourselves online with each other 24/7. I got sick of whining to him about my failed romances and he got sick of whining to me about his awful wife. We professed our love and he told his wife it was over.

It was almost a year before he was completely divorced and anything happened that made me think we'd actually meet IRL (in real life). His mom was given a job 200 miles from where I lived and they were moving cross country to take advantage of it (he lived in an apartment above his parent's house). He picked up and moved w/them and we met for the first time face-to-face on June 13, 1998.

Let me assure you that before we met we'd gone over all the things about our appearance that may have caused the other person pause. Nevertheless it was weird seeming him in person. The first thing I thought was "I could beat him up" LOL as he looked much more ... delicate... than I expected. He was tall and thin and fine boned. He told me that I was bigger than he thought (even though I'd confessed to him how much I weighed and all that) especially my head, lol. Well seeing on how small he appeared to me I can understand his surprise :)

Needless to say, it didn't matter. We loved each other. It was just right to be together. I think it was a whopping total of 5 hours before we were in bed together. We went to a movie afterwards and then I spent the night with him in his hotel room. He went home reluctantly the next day and I spent a week at him and his parents' new place over July 4th.

In the end... we were married July 4th of 2001 :)

I guess the moral of my story is... if you really love each other, the little things like hair or acne don't matter. My husband has bad teeth and terrible acne but that didn't matter to me at all. Now I just remind him to brush his teeth before bed and don't give it another thought. He doesn't care about my hairy legs, he says it makes me fuzzy and fun to rub. He likes to fuzzle my chin and giggle about my stubble. (He also tweaks my nose twenty times a day! He's lucky he's so cute or...)

I'm sure there's people who would say "he has a right to know before you meet" and others who would say "if he sees nothing but hair when he meets you than he's not worth it anyway" etc. etc... but really. If he loves you, it won't matter. If he doesn't, it's good to know in the beginning, right?

Let us know how it turns out!

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Panacea

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