Re: Am i being deceitful or I am wise to wait????(long but not too long)
From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Wed, 9 Jan 2002 09:56:50 -0500
As hard as it is to believe. A lot of men find hairy - sexy! I have
always been extra hairy - according to the model image portrayed in
most glamour magazines. My husband of 10 years is a handsome man.
He thinks I am pretty, even with hair. I dont think there is a need
to even make a subject of it. If it bothers him, he wont continue
your relationship and HE just isnt the right guy. You have to except
yourself the way GOD made you. Love yourself and guys will love you.
Self confidence is the key, I think. If you are beautiful on the
inside, you are beautiful on the outside!!! Just think about it - is
Mel Gibson a really handsome guy or has his image and/or personality
attracted us girls and made him more appealing? I hope that wasnt
too awful an example.
My husband knows that I go into the bathroom (and lock the door) in
order to pluck my ucky chest hairs. So what!!! I still feel good
about myself. And, if I fall behind in hair removal, he doesnt even
say anything. He has never made comment about my extra hair. Not my
mustach, my arms, legs (well, OK, I cant rub my legs against him less
he bleeds (haha), but he still loves me and is attracted). I really
believe that most men dont have a problem with body hair on women.
I wish you the best of luck in seeing how great and beautiful you
are, even with extra body hair!!! God bless and I hope you have fun
on your first person to person meeting.
>---- Original Message ----
From: anonymous@obgyn.net (anonymous)
To: anonymous@obgyn.net,
Subject: Re: Am i being deceitful or I am wise to wait????(long but
not too long)
Date: Wed, 9 Jan 2002 08:16:48 -0600
>Why is it being deceitful? For centuries women (and men too) have
>done
>what they can to minimize flaws - it's a ritual. there is no reason
>you
>should have to say "hey nice to meet you, oh yeah I should tell you I
>have a problem with excess hair." It's not like you are neglecting to
>tell him you have herpes or some other kind of communicable disease!
>;-)
>THAT would be irresponsible... GO, have a great time, get to know
>him,
>let him get to know you and then if you feel like it, tell him when
>if
>feels natural to you! Hope you have a great time!!!
>
>At Wed, 9 Jan 2002, anonymous wrote:
>>
>>Hi..i really dont want to post this, but it is gnawing at me and i
>need
>>to get it out. I met this guy (yes on the net..haha) been talking
>to
>>him for over 6 months, and am going to meet him in 2 or so. Guess
>what
>>my dilemna is?? You guessed it!! HAIR!!!! Arghhh! I hate it! My
>arms and
>>legs are the worst part..not like monkey hair but noticeable none
>the
>>less..I also have some under my chin, and I worry more about him
>feeling
>>pricklies there than seeing it. My question is...should i tell him
>now
>>or wait so he can see me first so he doesnt think hairy gorilla
>woman is
>>on her way (he has seen my pics by the way...so i guess he cant
>think
>>too bad), but then again he cant see my arm and legs (even though i
>>shave my legs but i have the worst pricklies there..ugh. He is a
>great
>>guy..i know i know..if he is so great i should be able to tell him,
>but
>>still it makes me very nervous and stressed..i am VERY sensitive
>about
>>it. I just dont want to get there...have a good time or whatever
>and
>>then tell him and he think i was deceiving in anyway ( or worse
>have him
>>not be able to handle it)...but then again i dont want to tell him
>>before he has seen me in person and get really bad images in his
>head!
>>Any advice....its eating at me really bad..:( thanks
>
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