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Re: ok, I have to ask this..
From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sun, 6 Jan 2002 22:15:24 -0600 (CST)
Thanks all of you who responded to my moment of self-loathing... I am
so glad I have you guys here whenever I need you. And some of you made
me laugh so hard.. Over breakfast this morning I asked him what kind of
"stuff" he liked down there and he said it doesn't make a difference at
all what it looks like and that any guy who says otherwise is completely
full of crap. That wasn't really the answer I had hoped for, but I know
I can't rely on him to boost me up - I know it has to come from within
me. I have to admit though, I really hoped he would just grab me and
tell me I was beautiful and that he loved every single part of me.. Oh
well. I'm working on it; I'm trying to accept me for how I am. I don't
mean to sound like a sniveling baby - thanks for listening and for
taking the time to make me feel better, it really did help.
At Sun, 6 Jan 2002, LaDawna wrote:
>
>This message will only reiterate what the other reply's have stated, but
>on a more humorous note.
>Over the Christmas break, I saw "The Vagina Monologues." One of the
>monologues touches on this very issue.
>
>The woman states, "one day I looked 'down there'. Most women have an
>ephipany and think that it's beautiful, but I thought it was the ugliest
>thing I had ever seen. I pitied anyone who had to go down there. For
>years she felt this way, until she met a very common place and ordinary
>man named Bob. Bob was a vagina connoisouer. He knew that by looking
>at a womans vagina, he was looking at the woman herself. So the woman
>takes Bob home with her and they turn off the lights and begin to have
>sex. Bob stops and wants to turn on the lights to 'look' at her. Of
>course the woman is embarrassed, here she is completely naked, WITH THE
>LIGHTS ON, and Bob is staring at HER! DOWN THERE!
>So Bob looks and looks and finally he says, 'Elegant, fabulous,
>creative, artistic.' The woman is stunned. You saw all that DOWN THERE?
>She is amazed and proceeds to have the best sex ever."
>
>If you have the opportunity to see this play, I highly recommend it. It
>is a funny, yet sometimes painful and sad look at womens issues using
>the vagina as a methaphor.
>
>Finally, on the vagina as a methaphor theme, if you are disgusted with
>yourself, you may be disgusted with your *self*. This monologues makes
>the point that we are all beautiful in our own way. The adjectives that
>describe me will not be the ones that describe you, but we are both
>wonderful in our own way. I too feel unattractive on the outside
>sometimes, usually based on the weight issue and the hormone imbalance.
>
>At Fri, 4 Jan 2002, anonymous wrote:
>>
>>This is so embarassing but I am so depressed about this that I need to
>>talk to you guys about it. For the first time in a long, long time
>>tonight I looked at my um.. *self* with a mirror. I don't remember it
>>looking like that before, it is just so ugly. I am devastated. I've
>>continually gained weight over the past several years and I know that's
>>why it looks the way it does. There is just so much flesh, on both the
>>inner and outer ones, and I hate how my jeans pinch me there because
>>mine aren't tiny and tucked inside like most other women's - God that
>>pinch is painful. This is just disgusting. I've been having enough
>>trouble feeling attractive with PCOS and now with this I don't want my
>>boyfriend to even think of touching me. I just recently started Met
>>hoping to lose weight (and treat my PCOS in general) but since my case
>>is considered "mild" my endo doubts I will lose any weight at all with
>>it. What can I do? I know there is plastic surgery available to make it
>>nicer looking but I am sure my insurance won't cover it. Even if they
>>did, what are the risks? And if I am able to get pregnant (I'm not TTC
>>right now so who knows?) will I have a problem with a vaginal delivery
>>if I got this surgery? If I lose weight, will it help? I am so
>>desperate. Please, does anyone have any insight?
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