PCOS Messages for November, 2001: Re: Why do I never meet any women my age or over with NO kids?

Re: Why do I never meet any women my age or over with NO kids?

From: ALicia (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed, 07 Nov 2001 09:47:19 -0600

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>In rural areas, I think, there is more pressure to have children, due to
>the fact that having children helps with the farmwork and also to the
>fact that rural people tend to be more traditional, religiously and
>otherwise, and having children is one of those traditional things.

I agree this is true. It is much more traditional around here.

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>Again, that's been the traditional view of women, but it's by no means
>the only view. As others have suggested, you may want to see if there
>are any childfree by choice organizations in neighboring communities, so
>that you may meet others like yourself.

Ive looked into those but they are mostly in large cities. I could go to one monthly perhaps.

You may also want to find some >women's rights organizations, because they fight for all women, whether
>they are homemakers or childfree by choice people, or whatever.

I could do this but I am prolife so I have to be careful of the very hardcore feminist groups. >
>I don't understand why a church would oppose fertility treatments.

Well its related to prolife. Many embyroes are destroyed in the invitro process. I know thats not all fertility processes. An embryo is considered a human life by Catholic philosophies and its wrong to destroy it. If one is infertile one can fight it by fixing health troubles but any fertily processes that destroy embryoes or bring third parties into the making of a baby are not to be used.

IN my case as admitted the health and financial obstacles would be insurmontable. I believe that God has willed me not to have children for these reasons and others. --probably even a blessing in disguise in my case. Remember I am quite disabled and unable to work. The physical demands of children would be hard. I was sad when writing the post that I had to now accept given my age ect, my childfree life.

It >seems odd that they oppose measures to prevent conception on the grounds
>that it's immoral to have sex without the possibility of reproduction,

Well Im more liberal on the contraception end. I think in some cases its ok. Natural family planning I think would be good for women who can use it. I take the Pill for PCOS. Thats actually ok by Catholic rules because of the risk of cancer.

>but then if you're infertile, it's OK to have sex, but not OK to try to
>have a baby.

It is ok to have sex if you are married and infertile. . I am not against people getting fertility treatments except for those that destroy embryos.

What's the deal with that? I really don't mean to be >offensive or cause trouble, but I really do wonder what they are
>thinking. It seems cruel to deprive people of something so fundamental
>as the ability to have your own baby.

Its not done out of cruelty. I do think that certain fertility treatments are ok by the Catholic churchs stance. If I had blocked fallopian tubes those could be operated on. If I needed PCOS treatment to get pregnant so be it and so forth. Its really the processes that destroy embryos that they are against and use of surrogate mothers etc...based on ethical and moral situations.

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>Jen R.
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