Re: Husbands and Kids...
From: anne (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed, 10 Oct 2001 18:34:42 -0500 (CDT)
Michele,
I wish I could waive my magic wand over your husband and make him feel
as you do. I wish I could say or do anything that would help.
Maybe you need to get your husband involved in some volunteer activities
like little league or something, maybe he doesn't know how easily a kid
can open your heart.
Please don't feel like a failure when you get your period, you sound
like a wonderful loving person.
Best wishes
--
Anne
PS
I haven't tried to have a child yet, I've been raising my husband's son
who lives with us, you just reminded me how lucky I have been to have
him.
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At Tue, 9 Oct 2001, Michele wrote:
>
>I haven't posted in a while though I've been lurking on and off. I
>finally got to see the endo in July and was put on Met 500mg a day. I
>was amazed at how quickly I started getting periods, between that and
>low-carbing, and was even regular, every three to four weeks since the
>beginning of summer even on that low of a dosage! Of course, that ended
>pretty quickly and I completely missed the month of September. Back to
>the endo again the end of next week.
>
>Anyway, I've tossed myself back into work again since school started
>again in September. I've got this great little boy on my caseload this
>year. He's 8 years old, living in foster care because parental rights
>have been terminated due to, I believe both physical and sexual, abuse,
>curly red hair and freckles. He's getting into trouble all the time
>because his teacher just can't be sympathetic to his history and his
>needs. For me he's always on his best behavior though, and he's always
>telling me how much he likes me, a really big thing for a kid like that!
>Today during class he tells me, he needs someone who will buy him a big
>pumpkin and help him make a jack-o-lantern because he's afraid no one in
>his home is going to help him do that for Halloween. I just wanted to
>wrap my arms around him and tell him he could come home with me and we
>could make one together.
>
>I've told my husband about this little boy a number of times and about
>how, I'd really just like to take him home. Today, I add this story to
>the mix, and he's got no reaction at all. When I probe further into
>what he thinks about all this, the big self-centered jerk says, "Well,
>that just happens to some kids." How can someone be that uncaring,
>unfeeling, and insensitive?!?!?!?!? He wants kids, for goodness sake
>he's already named *our* first three daughters, even though he knows I
>might not be able to have children. I'm so mad at him for being that
>way I can't even sit in the same room with him.
>
>Am I being completely insane to be mad at him? Are there other women out
>there who have husbands that just don't comprehend what our problem is?
>(having pcos, I mean). I mean, I want to start a family, but whenever I
>talk about it realisticly, like a specific child who needs a home and a
>family to love him, my husband basicly just laughs at me. How do I make
>him understand how I'm feeling? The frustration about wanting a family
>and not succeeding in conceiving, feeling like a failure every time I
>get my period and worse when I don't because I know I'm not pregnant,
>how my heart goes out to a kid like the one at school who needs someone
>like me...
>
>Sad, frustrated and angry,
>Michele D.
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