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My friend doesn't get itFrom: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)Mon, 10 Sep 2001 15:51:02 -0500 (CDT)
Okay I am having a very hard time dealing with this! I have a great girlfriend and we've been friends since we were little, like 7 or 8. We lived together ever since we were 18 up until 2 years ago when I married. She got married herself 3 months ago. I love her so much, you understand, but she's the kind of person that everything comes easy for. Everything. Which is not to say I don't think she has her struggles, or times when things didn't go like she had planned, but realistically she has never really fought with anything her whole life. She eats cr*p all day long and weighs like 100lbs, if that. She is beautiful and men go crazy over her. She is smart and has several degrees. Her life is a series of good comfortable things happening. My point is, this makes it really hard for her to understand what I'm going through. I try to talk about my PCOS every once in a while but I guess it makes her uncomfortable, and she kind of ignores it. When I miscarry she doesn't know what to say so tells me about what's going on with her. It's just so unknown to her. And now she has decided that she wants to get pregnant, even though she and her husband have just bought a house and are having to budget carefully, even with her salary, to make payments. This is just breaking me up because I am certain that, like everything else, she will succeed and be a mother in no time, with no problems. That's just her and her life, that's just how it happens with her. And here we have been trying for 2 years with no success. We have an amazing marriage, financial stability, both of us have careers working with children - WHY are we the ones who can't be parents??? Rhetorical questions aside, I have a practical one - I think that when she gets pregnant I am going to have to give myself some space from this friendship, much as I love her, to preserve my sanity. It's just more than I can bear. How can I do that without looking horrible? Without being horrible? How can I do that without hurting her or taking away from her happiness? Someone else here must have gone through similar stuff with friends who just don't get it. How do you cope with the loss of a friend's support where you need it most?
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