PCOS Messages for August, 2001: Re: 'In Need Of Some Validation'

Re: 'In Need Of Some Validation'

From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 31 Aug 2001 08:09:27 -0500 (CDT)

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>I understand exactly what you’re going through. I am 5’1” at my heaviest I was at 170 pounds. I felt horrible and my self- esteem was non-existent. The only thing that got me through these feelings was my husband. He never said a word about my weight and never made me feel ashamed. I hope that you have that kind of support system where you can find the validation that you need. If not there are PCO chapters around the county where you can talk to other women with the disease. Or start up a support group of your own, talking is usually the best form of therapy. I know I feel so much better after reading the boards knowing that I am not the only one feeling like this, and others are going through the exact same thing I am, I don’t feel so alone. I eventually lost the weight but I was obsessed to keep it off and got down to 115. I wasn’t any happier than when I was at 170. I realized that I was probably doing more harm to my body the PCO was. I finally realized that at any weight, I was still the same person that I had always been. I now weigh about 130 pounds but I have hair loss. I’m trying very hard to accept the fact that my hair will probably never fully grow back, and I think that I am succeeding, the other day I went out without a headband or hat!!!. After reading all of the stories on this message board it is very easy to determine that we are all strong women capable of conquering anything life has to throw at us!! I hope everything goes well for you, and you find the job of your dreams. Just remember that your weight does not determine your self-worth.

>I do not know if anyone feels the same way as I do.. But I interviewed
>for this job that I want really bad..and I feel like I was not hired
>because of my weight. I am 5'7 and 213 pounds. Everyone says that I
>take my weight up in height (my family says this)...I kinda think I do
>too. I mean..I used to weigh 145..but the PCOS thing really threw my
>body out of whack. Other women with PCOS that I talk to, are around
>170-180. They cannot believe I got to the weight that I am. They are
>mortified by their weight of 170-180. Heck, I would love to weigh
>that!!!!!!!! I just feel like a "total cow." I work out..and I started
>Glucophage, in addition to watching my diet. I know the weight will
>come off slowly. I just feel like the "biggest pig," in the world.
>Evertime I go to the doctor..he looks at my weight in "utter disgust."
>Is my weight really that "abnormal" for PCOS? Not to be rude..but is
>there anyone on this board that is around the weight I am??? Or am I
>really the biggest woman alive??? I truly believe that lately, people
>think I am. I cry every single day. I want the weight off..and I am
>working hard, but this interview thing has really got me down. It makes
>me feel that no one will hire me because I am so huge. Am I that huge?
>:.( Does everyone on this board weigh less than 200 pounds? Am I that
>much of a freak? God, I just want to be normal. I am new to this
>board..so please forgive me..I am just looking for some "validation."
>Thank you all for listening. Good luck.

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