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Re: Why I left size acceptance
From: ALicia (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon, 13 Aug 2001 11:53:46 -0500 (CDT)
I agree I think the line down the middle is the best. Not the denials
and fat promotion of fat acceptance or the hatred of WLS and diet
culture, thin is in at all costs. I think Ive tried to find this own
middle in my own life, more successfully as of late. I am happily
married, have good friends and as involved in the world as my health
problems will allow. I consider my own weight problem a health one like
someone would look at having lupus or a bad foot not WHO I am. I have
to take as much responsibility for doing what I can for myself. But I
do refuse to put myself down for being fat or to let anyone else do so.
Our culture is so messed up regarding weight you end up with these
extremes where the middle is far more healthy.
Mon, 13 Aug 2001, Susan C. wrote:
>
>Alicia- I agree with you that it is niave to think of supersized and
>healthy in the same context but it would be wonderful if we could walk a
>line down the middle, feeling satisfied with who we are even though we
>need to drop the weight. Not necessarily becoming complacent about our
>health, still try to become healthy but not feel like we are not allowed
>to be worthy until we reach our goal. Kind of like hey, I'm friendly,
>intelligent, have a good career, family, sense of humor, I'm attractive
>and oh yeah... I also happen to be overweight. I've said it before but
>I think we allow all of that to be pushed to the side with one look in
>the mirror. I don't know what the answer is, or even how to find a
>happy medium but we have some awesome women on this board and I would
>love to see the day that they all realize it! (You included!)
>Susan C. :-))
>
>At Mon, 13 Aug 2001, ALicia wrote:
>>
>>I wanted to talk about this here since so many women are dealing with
>>obesity issues. Seeing an excerpt from Fatso! reminded me of this topic
>>though I liked that excerpt! LOL I left size acceptance and know that I
>>cant support a cause well that ignores the health problems of its
>>members. It was strange overall to have a severe endocrine problem and
>>be in that world. It really was. Id tell people how scared I was of
>>gaining weight and how Id have to lose or die of being fat, and they
>>would call me a traitor. I remember the people that would get upset
>>that I saw my weight gain as even part of a disease process and I had to
>>find out WHY. It is a very weird world for those of you not acquainted
>>with its total ins and outs. I wont even discuss the exploitation ends
>>of things....
>>
>>I think the whole "fat and healthy" thing is wrong. Why we should fight
>>discrimination in whatever form it exsists and I know I will continue to
>>do that. I cant agree with a movement that basically tells everyone
>>that losing weight is a misguided and impossible notion and pounds to
>>death the statistic that 95% will fail no matter what. That fat and fit
>>are even possible. Im sorry but past a certain weight that stuff ceases
>>and is nothing but pure denial.
>>It was hard to see women with diabetes and other conditions denying that
>>they were even a problem in regards to weight.
>>It was also hard to note that NAAFA and other such size acceptance
>>groups have nothing to offer the endocrine patient. They dont have
>>phamphlets on health or discovering what ails you...the fat promotion
>>comes first. I know fat people who have died from obesity through my
>>own work. I know fat housebound people. Fat can kill and does.
>>
>>I like Marilyn Wann so who ever posted her excerpt, I evne owned that
>>book. But I wrote MW about the lies in size acceptance regarding
>>supersized women and health and how refusing to entertain any thoughts
>>of weight loss were harmful. I didnt get much of an answer.
>>
>>Also for years I talked to NAAFA and other members of Size acceptance
>>about how weight could really disabled and kill and after I said my
>>piece for some years....I knew that it was time to exit out the door. I
>>have worked with others ill from weight. Fat for many people especially
>>those with PCOS is the result of a disease process. There is nothing
>>healthy about it. I say this as a person who will probably always be
>>fat even if I lose down to my goal weight which due to my screwed up
>>metabolism i hope will be the high 200s.
>>
>>I am sometimes scared for endocrine patients or even young fat women who
>>may pay attention to their message of fat promotion and ignore the
>>health effects of slowly creeping up weight or in some cases rapidly
>>increasing weight. When they get to a size that is very hard to move
>>at, weight loss is more complicated. I know how hard it is to diet, it
>>sucks, and I understand when some women take a break from it all. I
>>understand this motive. I also understand the harmful effects severe
>>dieting has on us all, the WLS and other things that are troubling, the
>>discrimination.....but in many ways having seen the lies in size
>>acceptance about fat.....I have had to realize in some ways as a fat
>>person trying to regain health with the exception of the support here
>>and loved ones in life, I am on my own.
>>
>>My weight has caused major trouble in my life. Even though it is
>>endocrine based. I know Im going to have to lose even more and yes its
>>been a struggle. Right now I am facing lymphedema that is getting
>>worse. I have to wrap my legs for hours and fight the creepy edmea. I
>>am at a race with my own body to reclaim my health by a good age. I
>>even want to adopt and know I must be healthy to be eligible and make
>>sure this happens before i turn 42, the age one no longer can adopt in
>>my state. I want a career back.
>>
>>I think all of us can control this diease if given the right tools and
>>information. i am glad things like this board exist to share things.
>>You all do know that the reason I even recovered was finding stuff
>>online. Here is where I found out about Aldactone and suggested it to
>>my doctor instead of other drugs dealing with adrenal troubles.
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