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Re: 32 - thinking of going straight to adoption without undergoing fertility treatmentsFrom: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)Sun, 11 Feb 2001 23:40:44 -0600 (CST)
At Fri, 9 Feb 2001, Kallie wrote: > >Karen, > >I'm hopeing you can answer something for me. You said below that you >were put on a 1 yr waiting list for IVF? Why so long? I just assumed >that if my husband and I ever made that choice it was something that >would be immediately available. > >At Fri, 9 Feb 2001, Belinda wrote: >> >>Hi Karen, >> >>we're kind of in the same place as you at the moment. We were told on >>Tuesday that IVF is the best option for us, and we've been put on the >>waiting list (~ 1 year wait). At the time I thought I wasn't sure if it >>was what I wanted, but there's no harm in being on the list while we >>decide. >> >>We got home and read all the info they've given us - and I just looked >>at my husband and said "I REALLY don't want to do this!". It seems like >>a nightmare, without even a great success rate. In addition to the IVF, >>we'd have to have the ICSI done - where they inject the sperm directly >>into the egg - and there's some evidence that this can lead to birth >>defects. It just seems to me to be a bizarre thing to do when there are >>kids in care waiting for a home. That's not to say I don't think anyone >>else should do it - I think it's absolutely amazing that scientifically >>it's a possibility - I just really don't think it's for me. >> >>I desperately want to have children in our lives, but I have no urge to >>be pregnant - and certainly no urge to give birth!! I know other people >>do have very strong feelings on this though, and I in no way mean to >>criticise any one elses decision - it's such a personal thing, you just >>have to do what's right for you. > >-- >Kallie >I went through the same thing, trying to decide if we should continue with pergonal or to try to adopt. Three weeks later I decided to give up trying to become pregnant. Two weeks later; My mom helped me find me daughter and 1 month later we bpought her home. Three years later my old gyn found my other daughter and 3 days later we brought her home. I really in my heart of hearts believe I was not supposed to have a bio child but was meant to raise and love a child that need a family as much as we neede to have a child. That was almost 10 years ago and most of the time I forget that I did not give birth to them,but that does not diminish my love for them at all. Several years ago the cartoon Family Circus had billy talking to a friend and the caption went something like this So and so is really lucky because he came from his mother's heart...... As you may all know the song I loved you before I met you ,I think I dreamed you into life; that's how I feel about my children they mean everything to me know matter how they came to us. Best of luck to you and feel good about any decisions you may make.
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