Re: 32 - thinking of going straight to adoption without undergoing fertility treatments
From: Kallie (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 9 Feb 2001 12:24:30 -0600 (CST)
Karen,
I'm hopeing you can answer something for me. You said below that you
were put on a 1 yr waiting list for IVF? Why so long? I just assumed
that if my husband and I ever made that choice it was something that
would be immediately available.
At Fri, 9 Feb 2001, Belinda wrote:
>
>Hi Karen,
>
>we're kind of in the same place as you at the moment. We were told on
>Tuesday that IVF is the best option for us, and we've been put on the
>waiting list (~ 1 year wait). At the time I thought I wasn't sure if it
>was what I wanted, but there's no harm in being on the list while we
>decide.
>
>We got home and read all the info they've given us - and I just looked
>at my husband and said "I REALLY don't want to do this!". It seems like
>a nightmare, without even a great success rate. In addition to the IVF,
>we'd have to have the ICSI done - where they inject the sperm directly
>into the egg - and there's some evidence that this can lead to birth
>defects. It just seems to me to be a bizarre thing to do when there are
>kids in care waiting for a home. That's not to say I don't think anyone
>else should do it - I think it's absolutely amazing that scientifically
>it's a possibility - I just really don't think it's for me.
>
>I desperately want to have children in our lives, but I have no urge to
>be pregnant - and certainly no urge to give birth!! I know other people
>do have very strong feelings on this though, and I in no way mean to
>criticise any one elses decision - it's such a personal thing, you just
>have to do what's right for you.
--
Kallie
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