MIKKI: Re: Hey Hey Stacey A....... hope your still around!!
From: Stacey (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 29 Dec 2000 13:50:27 -0500
Hey Mikki,
Thanks for the message :)
you know, I have had some success in this area lately, and I might as well
tell about it since someone else might need to know. We talked about what
was going on and we made a deal about me working on my lovely PCOS mood
swings and him working on boosting his desire/stamina, and what do you
know - it's working! I think mainly b/c we are trying to show our love for
each other and understanding, and it's bringing us closer together, which
seems to really help in the area of sex. In the last 3 weeks, we've gone
from the previous once every 7-10 days to 3 times a week! A great
improvement ;).
Anyway, I don't know if this will work for anyone else, but I sure hope so!
Love,
Stacey
>----- Original Message -----
From: "Mikki" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
To: "Multiple recipients of list PCOS" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
Sent: Saturday, December 23, 2000 1:04 PM
Subject: Hey Hey Stacey A....... hope your still around!!
> I read about your problem with your husband (by the way congrats on the
> marriage I never did get around to saying that how rude of me). The
> last week while I was camped out in my bedroom I watched a television
> program on sex drive. I wish I could remember the name of it (you have
> to forgive me the pain killers turned me into a space cadet) but I do
> know it was on one of the specialty channels so it must have been on
> TLC, Discovery, or maybe Life (I'm gonna try to find out but it did have
> sex in the title). But anyways I'm rambling...
>
> I do have to say it was very interesting (it managed to keep my
> attention). They talked about how men often don't feel like sexual
> beings and often feel unattractive or non-sexual. While society adores
> the "beautiful people" those who are just average be it male or female
> suffer from low self-esteem and the first place it will often manifest
> itself is in bed. They showed various couples and how they tried to
> deal with it. What they found to be most effective was to boost your
> mates ego by dropping subtle and not so subtle hints that you are very
> attracted to him.
>
> They talked about the common mis-conception that only women needed to be
> told that they are "sexy" and while men are to be the agressive ones in
> the relationship. They said this was not true at all and that in most
> relationships that have "healthy" sex lives the opposite was true.
> However, the approach to stroking (lol stroking sorry i have to giggle
> now) a guys ego is not quite the same as it would be for a woman (well
> at least women in general). The one point I found most interesting is
> that eye contact while complementing a guy is a no-no physical contact
> is the way to go. They suggested approaching a guy from behind while
> whispering something in his ear.
>
> I never really realized just how self-conscious guys were until watching
> this show. Most felt unattractive (their beer bellies, going bald and
> so on) some felt like they were not successful enough, some even felt
> like they were not good enough for their wives. So after all my
> ramblings I would suggest making your hubby feel like he is the only guy
> who can ever turn you on (and even tell him that) it seems to work very
> well.
>
> I really do hope this helps you, more importantly I hope it made sense
> LoL!!! There was alot more that they said but it was an hour program and
> lol I don't think I could type anymore so if you have any questions feel
> free to ask them and I will try to find out the name of the show for
> you.
>
> Take care and have a happy holiday season (and get a little frisky)
> Mikki
>
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