PCOS Messages for November, 2000: Re: Is anyone worried about passing this on to baby?

Re: Is anyone worried about passing this on to baby?

From: jodi (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 30 Nov 2000 16:59:30 -0600 (CST)

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i have thought of this.

when all is said and done, though, PCOS hasn't done all that much to diminish my quality of life. granted, i still don't have it under control - i have an endo appt. on dec. 11 and i am hoping then to try met which i am hoping will turn all of this around - so i can't say for sure my life will ever be normal. but... well, i was always fatter than i would like to be. not OBESE mind you but for most of my life since i was 8, excluding my anorexic years, i could have stood to lose 20 - 30 pounds. so i got teased in junior high. big deal. lots of kids had horrible junior high experiences. lots of girls deal with self esteem problems even if they don't have PCOS. the growing up years can be a trial no matter how healthy you are. it's a fact. as for the facial and body hair, yeah, i hate it... but i've gotten used to it, and have found an awesome boyfriend who doesn't care at all, and so... well, i don't feel that abnoormal as far as most girl stuff goes. as for the menstrual probs... all this has caused me to read sooooo much on cycles and fertility et al, and i know so much more about this stuff than other girls now. and i'm glad of that. i'm not one of those girls now who minmdlessly pops birth control pills as an "easy" means of avoiding getting pregnant. i know so much more about my body because of this ... and maybe it still sucks, but all in all, my life hasn't been that bad. granted, i'm still pretty young, and have had no real complications, have no idea what fertility issues will be, if there will be any at all... but i feel like i picked a good time to get sick, since all this research has been done.

if i have a daughter, i will know to watch for this early so she can get treated ASAP and hopefully avoid having any problems. i'm confident that once i see the endo, my life will improve... and that if i ever have a daughter, her struggle will be no where near as bad as mine... and looking back, mine really hasn't been all that bad.

so i don't think it's selfish to reproduce at all. but i hope my bf's genes will be the ones most passed on so she could avoid all this altogether. :) i'm sure i got it from my dad so i don't think what's in the mom always gets passed on.

At Thu, 30 Nov 2000, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote: >
>I agree with you,
>
>I am not having kids, because I just don't like them enough to want one of my
>own, but I would never pass on something like this to a child. I guess maybe
>because I am not desperate to procreate I can look at it like deliberately
>choosing to possibly bring a defective baby into the world, who at best will
>have to not eat freely and normally because of the carb thing and always be
>on the lookout for IR and PCOS symptoms, and at worst could develop a severe
>manifestation of PCOS and develop diabetes, and suffer diabetic
>complications, endometrial cancer, etc...... Not to mention all the cosmetic
>problems that can shatter self-esteem.
>
>Personally, I think it is selfish to procreate when you have a potentially
>life diminishing condition that may very well be genetic. Why not adopt?
>Adoption can be a long drawn out procedure, but gee, isn't the fertility
>treatment scene equally as expensive, drawn out, and heart wrenching? I
>guess not wanting kids I cannot understand why the importance of passing on
>the genetic material, even if that genetic material may be flawed outweighs
>the potential well being of the child.
>
>But I guess some people are more caught up in the whole idea of procreation
>instead of the ramifications thereof.
>
>I just hope that their gamble that there will be better treatment options and
>that their kid will somehow "dodge the bullet" pays off and the child does
>not develop problems or manages to recieve treatment early on and does not
>suffer the worst problems, and who knows, maybe there will be a cure by then.
>
>But I would not gamble on those odds when another life is at stake.
>
>Tracy

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