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Re: Elle Re: Wench roommate update (you asked for it...LONG!!) :)
From: victoria (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon, 20 Nov 2000 14:16:58 -0600 (CST)
What you did was wonderful, don't worry if she doesn't respond. She
might be too shocked, don't be suprised if out of the blue (even in a
couple of yrs) she might respond back to you and thank you. I trully
believe that everything in life has a reason, so there a reason why that
girl had to gossip about her roomate to her friends, and there is a
reason why you overheard the conversation. Usually, every negative
situation there is a postive side. Hopefully, if nothing else, it gave
her comfort to hear from you that you cared so much to reach out. You
have a lot of courage to be open and speak out. Sometimes you have to
hit a couple of "right" doors to get a response. PCOS is still
relatively new to the rest of the world, although I have seen in it more
health and beauty magazines, so helpfully the word will reach out to the
many women who are suffering from this or even to those who might have
similar symptoms to just find out what is going on with their own
bodies. So don't give up on your mission (if this is something you want
to pursue).
Hehehe, I enjoyed the side note about the rude roomate.
Take care Enjoy! --Vicki--
At Sun, 19 Nov 2000, Ginger wrote:
>
>Hi Elle,
>Well, I have been thinking about Amy quite a bit too. Here's the
>update: I finally found out what dorm & room my classmate (aka the
>Wench) lives in, and manually went through the student directory
>(20,000+ names) to find out Amy's full name & e-mail address. (one of
>the reasons I haven't had an update for awhile!) So, after debating with
>myself for days, I decided to email her. Basically I said I casually
>knew some of the people she knows on campus and have heard some rather
>mean references about her, that I tracked down her email address not
>because I wanted to cause her any pain, but because she sounds very
>similiar to myself and I wanted to share my story with her. So, I
>described my symptoms, how I was at 18/19, how I was diagnosed, the
>frustration & pain I've gone through not knowing what was going on with
>my body..., etc. I told her the whole story, but in a "bright side"
>sort of slant - didn't want to freak her out any more than I had too.
>And gave her links to PCOSupport, and this board, and a few other sites,
>as well as my email & phone # & an invitation to contact me. That was
>almost 3 weeks ago, I never got a response. Now I am feeling bad, that
>maybe I went about it in the wrong way, that I scared her or made her
>feel like I had no right to impose on her life, etc. I don't know if
>what I did was right or not, and this is my other reason for not posting
>an update. I am really feeling like maybe I've made a terrible mistake.
>In addition, I did send a packet of printouts about PCOS to the R.A. for
>the dorm with a brief letter asking that it be shared with the residents
>at the floor meetings. Never heard anything about that either. In a
>way I feel like I've done what I thought was best, but am doubting
>myself a lot too. I realize that it was a lot for Amy to absorb, and
>I'm not sure how I would react either. Who knows? - I just keep praying
>for the best.
>
>On a side note, the roommate has a new boyfriend and he is now the
>dominate conversation topic, so they are laying off Amy somewhat. And
>here is the kicker - last week the roommate came into class late, in
>slobby clothes, hair in a ponytail, no makeup, etc. laughing and
>bragging about how she didn't have time to shower because she & her
>boyfriend had a "long" night and she hardly woke up in time, had just
>left his apartment, blah, blah (I told you she was a class act!) and
>(get to the point, Ginger!) I couldn't help but notice all of her acne &
>acne scars, and (drumroll) facial hair, which has obviously been plucked
>or shaved because of the stubble. Wonder of all wonders, maybe Miss
>Perfection was transferring some of her own worries and anxiety on to
>her roommate so she wouldn't have to deal with her own issues. She is
>also not petite by any means, and most of her weight is in her
>midsection. Now, don't send me hate mail - I wouldn't wish PCOS on
>anyone, but it makes me wonder...
>
>Anyway, thank you for your interest and continue to keep Amy (and all
>the others who are struggling) in your thoughts. I feel like that's the
>least I can do since I am not sure I have done the "right things" up to
>this point.
>
>Thanks & best wishes!
>Love,
>Ginger
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