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Re: Adoption
From: Natalie (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 9 Nov 2000 18:23:07 -0600 (CST)
I'm so sorry to hear about the adoption, my friend went through the same
thing--2 weeks before the girl changed her mind. How awful.
t Wed, 8 Nov 2000, Smed wrote:
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>I am usually the happy one here, but I am speaking from someone who went
>the adoption route and lost, before I was finally diagnosed with PCOS.
>Unfortunately, just a few weeks before the babies birth, the mother
>changed her mind. We had known about the baby since the 2nd month. Well
>actually we found out later she never planned on giving the baby up, but
>I live in Florida and she is in Indiana and she wanted to come to
>Florida because she was never here before. So she used us to get a free
>trip, then changed her mind. I had the whole nursery setup, all of the
>stuff bought, and still have a dresser full of clothes. I have a crib
>stored under my bed because there was no where else to put it, the
>mattress is standing in a corner of oneof the closets. The stuffed
>animals and things people sent or gave me are stacked in the closet,
>collecting dust. I am a Winnie the Pooh lover and everything was going
>to be pooh in the nursery. I have a newborn sleeper that I bought, the
>first outfit I bought, it is white with a little pooh over the heart.
>Sometimes I pull this out and just let the tears come.
>
>I am not trying to burst your bubble, I am sure a high percentage of the
>adoptions go well. But I also like everyone to know that there is not
>only the devestation of infertility, but try the devestation of loosing
>your child to an unfit mother at the last second, we recently found out
>that the child was removed to the state of Indiana because of unfit
>conditions. That is what I viewed him as, my child, my son. It was a
>boy by the way.
>
>One more thought, I know adoption is probably a big issue for women
>suffering with infertility, as many PCOS sufferers do, but we need to
>remember that this is a PCOS support board and try to keep the topics
>within those lines as much as possible. Sometimes it is nice to cruise
>off of topic once in a while but it can also cause trouble if we do it
>too often.
>
>On that note I did contact many adoption agency's in my searches, I
>found some very nice ones for overseas adoptions, but this is pretty
>expensive. If anyone would like to email me with questions please feel
>free to do so.
>
>TTFN
>
>--
>Smed
>
>At Wed, 8 Nov 2000, Stacey wrote:
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>>I'd be interested in other people's thoughts on this. I have no
>>intention of spending thousands of dollars on medical procedures I don't
>>need when that money could be so much better spent on a child who needs
>>a family. However, when looking at options, it seems that most of the
>>kids in my state are all loaded with physical or mental/emotional
>>handicaps. I'd love to help, but I am far from being in a financial
>>position to take care of a child with such severe problems. Am I just
>>looking in the wrong places?
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