PCOS Messages for November, 2000: Re: Adoption (long, disabilities, or not?)

Re: Adoption (long, disabilities, or not?)

From: Sonnet (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed, 8 Nov 2000 16:47:05 -0600 (CST)

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I have one more point to add to this discussion (I know I know, you are all probably wishing I would shut up by now!)

Hubby and I have spent the last year working with Holt to adopt overseas. We are waiting for a few more months until our lives are as stable as possible financially and otherwise, then we will move it forward. We are interested in adopting specifically a child with 'special needs' - either a child coping with emotional trauma of an extreme nature, a physical disability, or a sibling group / older child. We feel really led to adopt the children that no one else wants. (Every kid needs a home, we have one waiting!)

We have been told time and time agai both by Holt and by several familes who have adopted special needs children that the information provided about kids from other countries as far as delays go is not always reliable. In MANY cases, when you are talking about a child who has been in an orphange in a developing coutry, the delays are due to institutionalization and NOT to actual physical or mental problems. Case after case we have seen where the child, given the advantage of a loving and supportive family, has flourished and overcome completely all that was decreed to be their diability. It is also the case that in SOME developing countries, the medical workups of the children are not entirely correct or complete. We know familes that have had taht happen as well - they thought their child would be disabled and wasn't.

I realize that of course this is not the case in most adoptions, and much less so I would think in the US where foster care is the norm rather than orphanges. But it is something to keep in mind!

At Wed, 8 Nov 2000, Stacey wrote: >
>Vicki,
>I agree with what you say about being careful of when one decides to
>adopt...in fact, the steps you mention are required by many states...but
>it is true that between 50 and 70% of all kids up for adoption in any
>given state are in need of serious medical or psychological care. It's
>one thing to give birth to a child who needs such care...but to
>knowingly adopt a child who requires thousands of dollars of medical
>care is only for the wealthy. I would love to do it if I had the
>resources, but I do not. I know it's a stupid thing to

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