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Re: Adoption
From: Stacey (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed, 8 Nov 2000 16:27:08 -0600 (CST)
Vicki,
I agree with what you say about being careful of when one decides to
adopt...in fact, the steps you mention are required by many states...but
it is true that between 50 and 70% of all kids up for adoption in any
given state are in need of serious medical or psychological care. It's
one thing to give birth to a child who needs such care...but to
knowingly adopt a child who requires thousands of dollars of medical
care is only for the wealthy. I would love to do it if I had the
resources, but I do not. I know it's a stupid thing to complain
about...infertility is the last thing on our long list of health
issues...but you guys udnerstand like no one else does. Thanks for
listening :)
At Wed, 8 Nov 2000, vicki wrote:
>
>This is the wrong illusion sometimes that even the media puts out there.
>I have meet many kids (and adults) who were either in foster care or
>adopted and they are wonderful, happy, successful people. You have to
>keep in mind that sometimes the child may have gone through a great
>ordeal,(some kids grew up in an abuse household,etc) and it takes time
>to adjust to a new experience. Children have a fear of abadment
>especially those who haven't had a secure and safe home. All children
>need love regardless if they have a physical disablity or not. If you
>are trully interested in adopting, maybe you should contact people who
>have adopted and find out through there experience, or maybe working
>with kids and seeing if becoming a parent is something that u want to
>do. This is a big decision. Mind you that if you have your kids
>without adoption there is no guarantee that they won't have a physical,
>mental, or emotional "disability".
>Take care!
>All the best!
>Vicki
>
>At Wed, 8 Nov 2000, Stacey wrote:
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>>I'd be interested in other people's thoughts on this. I have no
>>intention of spending thousands of dollars on medical procedures I don't
>>need when that money could be so much better spent on a child who needs
>>a family. However, when looking at options, it seems that most of the
>>kids in my state are all loaded with physical or mental/emotional
>>handicaps. I'd love to help, but I am far from being in a financial
>>position to take care of a child with such severe problems. Am I just
>>looking in the wrong places?
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