Re: Adoption to smed
From: Dave (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed, 8 Nov 2000 21:12:49 -0000
I am sorry to hear that.
>----- Original Message -----
From: "Smed" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
To: "Multiple recipients of list PCOS" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
Sent: Wednesday, November 08, 2000 8:20 PM
Subject: Re: Adoption
> I am usually the happy one here, but I am speaking from someone who went
> the adoption route and lost, before I was finally diagnosed with PCOS.
> Unfortunately, just a few weeks before the babies birth, the mother
> changed her mind. We had known about the baby since the 2nd month. Well
> actually we found out later she never planned on giving the baby up, but
> I live in Florida and she is in Indiana and she wanted to come to
> Florida because she was never here before. So she used us to get a free
> trip, then changed her mind. I had the whole nursery setup, all of the
> stuff bought, and still have a dresser full of clothes. I have a crib
> stored under my bed because there was no where else to put it, the
> mattress is standing in a corner of oneof the closets. The stuffed
> animals and things people sent or gave me are stacked in the closet,
> collecting dust. I am a Winnie the Pooh lover and everything was going
> to be pooh in the nursery. I have a newborn sleeper that I bought, the
> first outfit I bought, it is white with a little pooh over the heart.
> Sometimes I pull this out and just let the tears come.
>
> I am not trying to burst your bubble, I am sure a high percentage of the
> adoptions go well. But I also like everyone to know that there is not
> only the devestation of infertility, but try the devestation of loosing
> your child to an unfit mother at the last second, we recently found out
> that the child was removed to the state of Indiana because of unfit
> conditions. That is what I viewed him as, my child, my son. It was a
> boy by the way.
>
> One more thought, I know adoption is probably a big issue for women
> suffering with infertility, as many PCOS sufferers do, but we need to
> remember that this is a PCOS support board and try to keep the topics
> within those lines as much as possible. Sometimes it is nice to cruise
> off of topic once in a while but it can also cause trouble if we do it
> too often.
>
> On that note I did contact many adoption agency's in my searches, I
> found some very nice ones for overseas adoptions, but this is pretty
> expensive. If anyone would like to email me with questions please feel
> free to do so.
>
> TTFN
>
> Smed
>
> At Wed, 8 Nov 2000, Stacey wrote:
> >
> >I'd be interested in other people's thoughts on this. I have no
> >intention of spending thousands of dollars on medical procedures I don't
> >need when that money could be so much better spent on a child who needs
> >a family. However, when looking at options, it seems that most of the
> >kids in my state are all loaded with physical or mental/emotional
> >handicaps. I'd love to help, but I am far from being in a financial
> >position to take care of a child with such severe problems. Am I just
> >looking in the wrong places?
>
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