PCOS Messages for November, 2000: Re: Depressed about pregnancy

Re: Depressed about pregnancy

From: Linda (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue, 7 Nov 2000 11:23:50 -0600 (CST)

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I have had PCOS since I was 16. And have suffered with it just like all of you. The frustration I feel in getting pregnant while trying to fix my PCOS is just as real as your frustration for not being able to get pregnant. At 39, I have some significant health problems brought on by the PCOS and therefore, was avoiding pregnancy so I wouldn't put my health in jeopardy. I don't even know if this pregnancy will carry to term, or if I can physically handle it. Add to that, the stress of my daughter's asthma crap (instrumental I might add in breaking down my health --- you inhale steriods, albuterol and anti-inflammatory on a daily basis, then get two hours sleep/night while your kid struggles to breathe and see how you feel). I was going to get a heart scan due to an irregular heartbeat and possible blockages and guess what, I can't now. I had to fight to get a pap smear before 12 weeks, despite the fact I'm bleeding from the cervix and have had two bad paps in the past. Let's also not forget since I hadn't had a period since May, I run a higher risk of endometrial cancer. So perhaps I can have this baby, then find out I have cancer or heart disease????? Everyone in the medical community seems hell-bent on protecting the health of this child that they forget the mother!! HELLO!!! If I can't carry this pregnancy to term, then there IS no child -- my health comes FIRST, especially since I have two kids at home who would like to have a mother raise them along with their father. So THIS is where my frustration lies.

It is hard to be excited when one is nauseous, exhausted, having irregular heartbeats, and on top of that, has had a bad respiratory infection (that I'm not allowed to treat--might hurt the baby).

Remember, PCOS affects us all in different ways. I have not suffered infertility in the classic sense, but the crappy hormonal flow within my body leaves me always hanging in mid-air about what will happen next. Not having control, and not being able to plan STINKS!!! My husband is planning a vasectomy and if this child is a section, I will get my tubes tied as well. That should fix it, though I've heard people still get pregnant besides.

Sorry to be so nasty, but I am tired, sick, and still somewhat frustrated.

At Mon, 6 Nov 2000, Smed wrote: >
>Linda,
>
>I am not sure if you know what board you posted this on. Do you have
>PCOS? If not you need to move to another board. I am usually the happy
>go lucky one, but I have to say that you may not get much sympathy here,
>sorry but there are so many women here who have suffered many many long
>years to become pregnant to no avail.
>
>I would have to say congratulations on this blessing from God.
>
>I understand your shock at becoming pregnant again, but remember that
>each child is a blessing sent to you straight from heaven and that God
>is handing you a bundle to love and care for. There is not much more
>many of us here could ask for than that. I would have to say I would be
>happy to give up my dreams of being thin again to just experience the
>joy of pregnancy and birth. I do not mean to rant at you, but I have to
>say that it just seems a little tiny bit inconsiderate to post this type
>of message on this board after all the pain and suffering you must see
>on here. I just never remember seeing you post before. I do not know
>maybe I am daft or something, I have been accused of that before. Do
>not take this personal, well maybe you should I don't know. Sorry
>everyone, but this post just got Smed's panties in a wad. Sometimes
>things just bother me and they shouldn't I suppose. I can just imagine
>the hurt in so many women's hearts when they read that message.
>
>P.S. kallie you handled this a lot better than I did, way to go.
>
>--
>Smed
>
>At Mon, 6 Nov 2000, Linda wrote:
>>
>>Here I am, 39 years old and pregnant again! I hate to whine about what
>>others are possibly trying to achieve but it seems every darn time I use
>>hormonal treatment (this time natural progesterone) I get pregnant
>>DESPITE the fact we used birth control!
>>
>>I hadn't even cycled since May of this year and still managed to get
>>pregnant in September. I was trying to bring on a cycle using the
>>natural progesterone. The doctor thinks what happened is I popped a big
>>cyst off my ovary in the beginning of Sept due to the progesterone's
>>influence, and that created a weak spot on my ovary for an egg to pop
>>through 2 weeks later. The cyst they detected in the ultrasound to date
>>the prenancy is HUGE.
>>
>>At any rate, I was not expecting a third child and am having trouble
>>getting used to the fact. My second child had pretty bad asthma and the
>>stress nearly destroyed my marriage. We feel like we are finally at a
>>point where we were getting back freedoms we had totally lost and BANG,
>>here we go again.
>>
>>Sigh.
>>
>>--
>>Linda
>>

--
Linda

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