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Re: A lurker in need of support!
From: Jennifer (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue, 31 Oct 2000 13:14:38 -0600 (CST)
Tonya,
Would it help if you sat down and wrote a nice letter to your boss. Try
saying something like, "I understand your concerns about the times I am
not able to come to work, and I want to assure you that I would prefer
to be there. Unfortunately right now I have some very serious health
problems which interfere with not only my work, but every aspect of my
life. I'm sure you've had a member of your family or a friend with a
serious illness, and you understand where I'm coming from. As for what
you see as a recent period of negative attitude on my part, I assure you
that if I have been less than friendly, it is due in great part to the
medication I am taking which tends to cause depression and due to my
frustration with my own health and body. Please try to understand that
this is a very difficult time for me. When I recover, you can be sure I
will go the extra mile to make up for time lost."
Whoops, I made it long. anyway, that is just my suggestion. I find it
easier to write a letter than to talk to people because I sometimes cry
when I'm talking about emotionally charged issues and I wouldn't want to
do so in front of my boss. I hope this helps.
Jennifer
t Tue, 31 Oct 2000, Stacy Flynn wrote:
>
>Hi Tonya,
>Wow you sure have alot on your plate honey i am so sorry. I know how hard it
>is to have physical problems and chronic pain every day. It's really to bad
>that your place of employment has not one ounce of compassion for someone in
>your situation struggling everyday. If i were you i would do what you have
>to do. I don't know where you are living but right now there are lots of
>jobs out there. I have to say so far i have been real lucky with my job they
>are understanding and supportive but you don't find that everywhere. I
>really do feel for you and wish i had all the answers or could say all the
>right things. This is tough and you have had a real rough time of it with
>surgery etc. I Know for me and this may not be something you want to do but
>what about getting a good therapist too to help you through dealing with
>this disease.It has helped me quite a bit. Listen good luck and best wishes
>Stacy.
>
>>From: anonymous@obgyn.net (Tonya)
>>Reply-To: anonymous@obgyn.net
>>To: Multiple recipients of list PCOS <anonymous@obgyn.net>
>>Subject: A lurker in need of support!
>>Date: Tue, 31 Oct 2000 08:14:21 -0600
>>
>>Hi everyone, I usually don't post here often unless I feel that I have
>>something that may help someone. All of you give such good advice, and
>>I fumble with how to put things, but today I need a favor. This last
>>month has been so hard and I am now so very down in the dumps!!!! I had
>>a cyst rypture on my left ovary the first week of Oct. Then the second
>>week, I went in for a exploritory Laperoscopy. The Dr drilled both
>>ovaries, removed a large cyst from my right ovary and also cleared lots
>>of scar tissue. This took a week longer then they said it would to
>>recover from. I went back to work last week to have another cyst
>>rupture last Tuesday. It happen at work while I was teaching kids swim
>>lessons. I was in so much pain. I had to leave and go to the ER. On
>>the ulta sound it showed the tell tale signs of fluid around my ovary.
>>Well the diagnoisis was a ruptured cyst. Because of the surgury I am
>>still not completely healed from that but went back to work yesterday.
>>
>>Now comes all the crap. My boss sat me down when I got to work and gave
>>me a lecture on how it affects them, when I am not able to come to work.
>>She can not do her work if I am not there to do my work, and did I
>>realize this. Also I need a Dr note for the time after the surgury and
>>the time from the rupture cyst last week. Could I get that to her in
>>the next couple of days. Then we needed to adress my poor additude.
>>Several different people came to her supposedly and said I had snapped
>>at them. I have been in so much pain and trying to deal with it, but I
>>know I had not been mean to anyone. I may not have been friendly but
>>not out right snappy, not to mention I lifeguard most of the day by
>>myself. All I can say is I cried through the whole thing.
>>
>>And to top this of my Fiancee and I got in a fight sat night because I
>>have been sleping so much and we can not do anything anymore. I know he
>>is just frustrated cause he can not fix it. And I am sorry if everyone
>>is frustrated right now, But IAM FRUSTRATED it is my body that is
>>failing me. I want to feel better. I want to do things. I want to
>>work. Most of all I just want to remember the little things like where
>>I left my keys or where I set my wallet down. The last month has passed
>>in a haze of pain medications and to now have evryone come down on me
>>for the things I can not control, has made me feel even more out of
>>control. I am sorry this is so long. I really just need to get it out
>>to other people who understand what I am going through. Thank you for
>>being on this board and for all the support you guys give every day.
>>Thank you!!!!!
>>
>>--
>>Tonya
>>
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