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Re: Horrible Doctor Visit
From: Melissa (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon, 30 Oct 2000 19:01:15 -0600 (CST)
HOLY COW! Unbelievable! I can't believe you were treated with such
disrespect. To think that we pay doctors..make them rich I might add,
and they have the gall to talk to another human being like that! I would
report her. I don't know where but I would find out. That was WRONG.
She obviously didn't know much about PCOS. I am sorry you had to go
through that. I am thankful that I have a good doctor that made the
diagnosis before I even knew what it was. Keep hope. There is someone
out there who can help you! Next time, hopefully there will never be a
next time, get up and atleast walk out. Don't let them talk down to
you. They are human just like you. The only difference is doctors go
to school a little longer than some of us. They are definitly not a
superior race. Sorry so long, that just really got to me. I have had
doctors in the past tell me all my problems were because of weight.
Finally, I have a doctor that made a good call and didn't blame
everything on weight. You will find a doctor that can help you.
Somewhere out there, there is one for you! Your in my thoughts and
prayers!
God Bless,
At Mon, 30 Oct 2000, Jenny wrote:
>
>You go girl!! I am running into a problem with doctors today as well, I
>have 1 fertility doctor, 1 GYN, and 1 primary. Right now I am tring to
>get them all on the same page. But one doc thinks it is one thing and
>the other thinks it's another. I am ready to fire all of them and get
>an endo. but I can't do that until they are all on the same page. This
>is a nightmare.
>
>At Mon, 30 Oct 2000, anonymous wrote:
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>> Tina,
>>
>>I am so sorry to hear what happened to you. I am appalled by how she
>>treated you. You should write a letter to your state's medical board,
>>and your insurance company. There is a thing called "patients rights".
>>When a Doctor takes a oath it is to be compassionate and help people.
>>That little piece of paper on the wall does not make the "GOD".
>>Unfortunately many of them believe that they are. I too suspect that I
>>have PCOS. I am currently searching for a doctor. You seem to be a
>>very kind and gentle person. I am that way, but living with this
>>condition and insensitive doctors has made me tough. I won't let them
>>talk to me any kind of way, tell me that it is all in my head. I have
>>no problems with telling them off. I told one doctor that doctor's are
>>a dime a dozen and as far as I'm concerned he wasn't worth one cent!
>>That I didn't appreciate his attitude and the way he was talking to me
>>like I was some kind of kid. I have lived in this body for 38 years and
>>I KNOW HOW I FEEL. He has two choices, either believe me and help me or
>>get out of my way!
>>
>>Hang in there. Are you in MD?
>>
>>Tina
>>
>>At Sun, 20 Aug 2000, Tina wrote:
>>>
>>>I recently self diagnosed PCOS. It was a wonderful and horrible eye
>>>openor. I went to a support meeting to see if this is really what I
>>>had. At the meeting a Reproductive Endocronologist (BAD spelling)
>>>spoke. I talked to him afterwards and he was amazed that I had not been
>>>diagnosed earlier, I have nearly EVERY medically known symptom. And
>>>most of those symptoms that people who have it tend to complain of.
>>>Anyway, he told me I needed to go to my medical doctor, talk to her and
>>>try to get a referral if I felt it was needed. So I made my
>>>appointment. Now I have moved to this area in the last couple of years,
>>>but I have gone to her for others things, ya know colds, flu, blah blah
>>>blah and she seemed pretty nice. Unfortunately what happened was not,
>>>and I was devestated. Thank god for this site. I know this is long,
>>>but I wanted to share for anyone else that may have this experience:
>>>
>>>When I got to the doctors office the nurse asked me what I came in for.
>>>I explained to him what I had found out and he was VERY nice. He asked
>>>for any sites that I may know of where he can do to look up this
>>>disease. I was excited, it seemed the visit may go well. After about
>>>15 minutes the doctor came in, I thought the nurse was looking up some
>>>information.. BOY was I wrong. She walks in, slams the door and says,
>>>what can I do for you. I started explaining the symptoms i have had for
>>>the last eight years or so, since I hit twenty. I told her about the
>>>severe weight gain, from 135 to nearly 300 in less than 2 years. And i
>>>listed the other symptoms. I also explained that my family has a high
>>>occurence of diabetes and heart disease, especially in the women. When
>>>I got to the point of explaining what doctors have tried in the past to
>>>help she suddenly jumped in. "So, you have PCOS, what do you want from
>>>me" I just kind of sat there for a second looking at her. She then
>>>started lecturing me on how "fat" people, especially women tend to look
>>>for an excuse for being fat. And that she has had PCOS for 20 years and
>>>is not fat, had children and never had the "side affects" everyone
>>>claims to have. She told me that I needed to WORK to loose the weight,
>>>a strict diet and excercise. "And I do not mean just a walk to the
>>>mailbox and back" When I questioned her on new medical treatments such
>>>as metphorin(?) she got very agitated. "You want me to write you a
>>>prescitpion?? is that what you want? Fine, your insurance will not pay
>>>for it but I will write it and you will waste your time". She kept
>>>saying that I needed to excercise, that I was not eating right. But
>>>never asked my how I felt, what was I eating, what had I tried. When
>>>asked why I gained it so fast when put birth control, then gained more
>>>when taken off she said "If I had the answer to all of these questions I
>>>would be rich and doctors would be out of business" I tried to ask
>>>several other questions with nearly the same effect. She then said "All
>>>I can tell you is that you are going to die, you will get heart disease,
>>>and have a heart attack, your legs will have poor circulation and will
>>>probably have to be amputated from the weight, since you have not even
>>>had a period in four years you will probably get cancer, so if the heart
>>>disease does not kill you the cancer will". By this point she had me in
>>>tears, I tried to calm and recompose but she would not stop. Finally I
>>>got up and turned to the wall to try to recompose myself, I was so
>>>ashamed for breaking down in from of her. When I kept trying to ask
>>>things she got up, stated that we were getting nowhere and she had
>>>already wasted 30 minutes with me, left the room and came back with a
>>>name of a specialist, then told me to call her assistant for the
>>>referral she does not want to talk to me anymore.
>>>
>>>When I left I was in tears. I nearly wrecked my car just trying to get
>>>home, I felt so worthless. She made me feel like everything was MY
>>>fault and if I was not so FAT I would feel better. She told me ALL I
>>>had to do was exercise and it would ALL go away. Luckily I have a
>>>supportive family and had done a lot of research, which showed that
>>>excercise alone will not work. I know this is long, thank you for
>>>reading. It is hard to put how I felt into words. I am now trying to
>>>get my insurance company to change my primary care provider and writing
>>>a letter to the Dr. including articles about the disease. I feel sorry
>>>for any of her other patients that come to her suffering from this. I
>>>am trying to keep hope, but people like her make it hard.
>>>
>>>--
>>>Tina M. Robertson
>>>
--
Melissa
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