Re: Hair and Marriage (long).......the conclusion
From: Chris (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sun, 8 Oct 2000 14:20:56 +1000
I am so proud of you! You have a lot of courage and have faced your fear.
Together you and your hubby will deal with this disease!
Good luck,
Love Emma
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From: anonymous <anonymous@obgyn.net>
To: Multiple recipients of list PCOS <anonymous@obgyn.net>
Sent: Sunday, October 08, 2000 12:54 AM
Subject: Re: Hair and Marriage (long).......the conclusion
> I talked to him. Tearful and intimately, we discussed it, and (as I
> knew he would be) he was totally surprised and completely supportive.
> And relieved. There were times that I "wasn't in the mood" that
> saddened him and tortured me. It was never that he wouldn't love me.
> The issue was whether I could ever say it aloud and discuss it.
>
> In answer to some of your replies, I think I should clarify that my
> husband never showed any signs of lack of interest in me sexually, and
> we have always shared everything in our marriage..... everything except
> this. That is why it was so hard and so important.
>
> I want to thank all of you for your support. Without it, I don't think
> I could have talked to him. Some of you may understand when I say that
> it took a lot of courage just to voice it aloud..... this "secret" has
> grown and taken on more strength because I never could talk about it. I
> knew it was irrational not to tell the person who I love beyond anyone
> else, the one person I knew would accept me regardless. But, some of
> you may see this too, it is a matter of trust that I was never willing
> to risk until now. The last stronghold that this stuipd disease held
> over me. Imagine twenty years of silence and artful dodging. Finally,
> I am controling this disease and it isn't controling me.
>
> So, when I was done crying and being held, we decided to play it by ear.
> I may only feel comfortable having sex with my bra on during those
> times, but it's a reminder of our closeness now instead of some hidden
> fear.
>
> Thank you, everyone. Your support has changed my life (and I really
> mean that).
>
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