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Re: Babies, Babies, Babies
From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Fri, 29 Sep 2000 23:19:43 -0500 (CDT)
At Thu, 28 Sep 2000, Tina wrote:
Oh Boy!!!! he he he.....
I was wondering what in the world was going on!!! :0) Keep the faith!!!!
Serena
>
>Yea I know it sounds strange, but they are traveling on airplane and it
>is hard to travel with a carseat, stroller, etc... so the solution :)
>use my stuff. I have to say that part of it was my husbands idea. Of
>course his mommy is always right so....OK I am not going to go there :)
>Thanks for the support
>
>At Wed, 27 Sep 2000, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote:
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>>At Wed, 27 Sep 2000, Tina wrote:
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>>Tina,
>>I understand what you are saying and maybe I am not reading this
>>correctly. Whay are they using your stroller and carseat, what is that
>>about. I have children and I have always had my own stuff (even when I
>>went on trips) I just do not understand that!! What are they doing
>>driving to your house holding the baby? Sleeping in the crib is one
>>thing and that would be ok with me but the other stuff....NO WAY. Now I
>>know that I may sound mean but when someone has a baby....they need to
>>be prepared. I did not understand your anger before but now I
>>understand only part of it....The mother really should bring proper
>>traveling gear. When I used to go on visits with my children, I always
>>had my own stuff and I even brought a pack and go playyard which was a
>>wonderful thing I used. I know I am babbling but I guess I am just
>>confused about the way these visitors are sounding. It sounds like they
>>are coming very unprepared.....
>>>
>>>I want to thank everyone for the support and advice. This is what this
>>>board is for :) Anyway, I think Monica hit what I was feeling the most.
>>>It is not so much that they are coming, but that they are going to be
>>>using the stuff that was intended for the child that never was. That is
>>>the worst. But today I feel ok, tomorrow....well I will just have to
>>>wait and see. Sometimes I feel like so many different people. Today I
>>>am ok, yesterday it was really bugging the dooodee out of me that they
>>>were coming and using MY babies stuff. Even tho the child was never
>>>here, it still hurts, maybe that is WHY it hurts, because the one that
>>>was supposed to use it never got to. Ok, I am babbling now. Oh well...
>>>Thanks everyone
>>>
>>>At Wed, 27 Sep 2000, Monica wrote:
>>>>
>>>>Hi, Tina-
>>>>You have every right to feel what you are feeling. You are very
>>>>gracious to open your home to your family. Letting the baby sleep in
>>>>the crib is awfully generous. Maybe save the other stuff for YOUR baby.
>>>>Why do you have to give up EVERYTHING that you want to use for the first
>>>>time for your baby someday? Maybe I'm beeing too selfish. But I think I
>>>>would just pack away a few of those things and tell your relatives to
>>>>bring their own! You've got to look out for yourself, too! (I guess I am
>>>>sounding pretty selfish today!) Everyone has a breaking point! :)Monica
>>>>
>>>>At Tue, 26 Sep 2000, Tina wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>Ok, I am going to be adult about this, I am going to be strong, clam up,
>>>>>and take it like a woman should. I am not going to be depressed,
>>>>>distressed, or grouchy. At least that is what I keep telling myself. It
>>>>>is not enough that all of my frieds, my cousins and family acquaintances
>>>>>have children, now my younger brother, and now my husbands younger
>>>>>sister have both had children. Which means instead of US making our
>>>>>parents, grandparents first, our younger siblings have done it. On top
>>>>>of everything else I am the ONLY grandchild out of MANY that has not
>>>>>produced a great-grandchild. Now my sister-in-law and mother-in-law are
>>>>>coming to visit from out of state with our niece. And I have to pretend
>>>>>it does not bother me. It does not bother me that my sister-in-law,
>>>>>very young, inexperienced, and unappreciative of what she has brought
>>>>>into this world, that she has a child and I can not. That I have been
>>>>>married for 8.5 years and NOTHING. I have to come face to face with a
>>>>>baby in my house, sleeping in the room that was once made into a nursery
>>>>>for the adoption that fell thru at the last minute. Sleeping in the
>>>>>crib that I bought for MY child. I am not a hanger onner. I have let
>>>>>it go as best as possible. Many moons ago I changed that room from a
>>>>>nursery to a guest room, people have been sleeping in it for months. But
>>>>>now, I will have a baby in it, in the crib that I put away a long time
>>>>>ago. using my car seat that I never got to use, using the stroller that
>>>>>I never got to use. OH, it is ok because it is there and SOMEONE should
>>>>>use it. At least that is what I keep telling myself. The big question
>>>>>will be answered soon, they get here in 2 days. Will I handle it with
>>>>>grace? Will I be able to lock myself in the bathroom and cry alone so I
>>>>>do not make a fool of myself. I tell myself, I do not want kids, I need
>>>>>to get well, I can not afford them. But who wants it all rubbed in
>>>>>their face? Who really wants to face it that up close? Am I weak? Or am
>>>>>I justified?
>>>>>
>>>>>--
>>>>>Tina M. Robertson
>>>>>
>>>--
>>>Tina M. Robertson
>>>
>--
>Tina M. Robertson
>
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