Re: Not for the pregnancy sensitive - last update
From: Kallie (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 28 Sep 2000 19:24:05 -0500 (CDT)
I am so sorry for your loss. Take comfort in what your GP said about
"sub fertile" Although it seemed a million to one chance - I did get
pregnant and had a healthy baby who will now be 3 in December. Thanks
God because that gets me through.
But it did take 2 1/2 years of just trying to get pregnant which does
make this loss seem particularly cruel. It is just that I have no idea
HOW OR WHY I got pregnant. Yea - I know sex got me pregnant - but I
keep trying to remember what hour of the day it might have been - what
position - what day in my cycle - what was the magic freaking equation.
I don't know but I will figure it out. I will be pregnant again and I
am determined to do it with in a year with out fertility drugs - just
the grace of god. That is how I managed to get pregnant the last two
times and I feel strongly we'll do it again.
Thanks for sharing.
At Thu, 28 Sep 2000, Vikki wrote:
>
>Kallie, I know exactly what you are going through. In October 1999 I
>discovered I was pregnant. It was an accident, and really bad timing. I
>was already at the time limit set by my local maternity hospital for a
>termination, and had only 2 days to decide what to do. I then started
>bleeding and it was a possibility I might lose the baby. I elected to
>have an abortion largely because of this. What I didn't know was that
>at my dating scan the gynacologist had discovered I had PCOS, and hadn't
>told me. I was told by a different doctor when I went for a check-up
>after the termination to make sure everything was ok, and she bluntly
>informed me that I was infertile, and that had been a million-to-one
>chance that I had fallen pregnant. It was over a month before i went to
>my GP in a state of extreme depression over having lost my only chance
>at having children. He was wonderful, he knew a lot about the condition
>and reassured me that I was merely sub-fertile, and that most women with
>the condition have children without even knowing they have a fertility
>problem. I still grieve for my lost baby, but I have hope for the
>future.
>
>There's nothing I can say that can make things better, except that it
>will get easier with time. You will never get over it, but you will
>learn to cope.
>
>I wish you all the best in the future. Take care.
>
>At Wed, 27 Sep 2000, Kallie wrote:
>>
>>I just wanted to let those of you who have kept in touch that I am
>>indeed having a miscarriage. No heartbeat, no growth and the sac is
>>begining to deteriorate.
>>
>>I want to appologize (Please don't tell me not to) that I have posted my
>>graphic pregnancy problems here,in detail. It has come to my attention
>>that this was probably not the best forum for the lengths at which I
>>posted. I have found several boeards that deal more with pregnancy
>>problems and pregnancy loss.
>>
>>I am not saying that I shouldn't have shared - because PCOS has had such
>>a devastating effect on so many ladies fertility and pregnancies - And
>>it was likey PCOS that effected my pregnancy negatively - but maybe I
>>shouldn't have shared so much.
>>
>>I am happy forthe time that JJ was alive - it has in some ways given me
>>renewed hope. But I am sorry to those of you whom this thread effected
>>negatively. I am sorry, it is true that I was insensitive to others
>>pregnancy and fertility woes.
>>
>>At any rate, it is over, I will have a D&E by Monday. Pathology will
>>check the tissue to try to determine cause, at which time the true
>>healing can begin.
>>
>>--
>>Kallie
>>
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Kallie
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