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Re: Single Blues From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net) Mon, 25 Sep 2000 15:44:17 -0500 (CDT) Messages sorted by: [ date ][ thread ][ subject ][ author ] Next message: anonymous: "thanks to everyone" Previous message: anonymous@obgyn.net: "The Subject of PCOS" Kathy, at 24 I had not had a single date in my life. I was depressed and lonely and worried that I would be alone forever. Not only that, but besides dealing with being overweight (5'7 and 190) I had (and still have) major hair loss. And then a couple months before I turned 25 I met my best friend, who's now my husband. I met him on the internet, and I think it's a wonderful way to meet people, as long as you're safe about it! I honestly think I would still be single had I not met my guy this way. I was able to completely be myself when we talked, and so he fell in love with my personality before ever meeting me. We did exchange photos, but my hair loss was not apparent in the photo I sent him. So about two weeks into our internet affair, I finally got the courage to tell him about my hair loss. I started by telling him I had something important to share, and to please be honest with me about whether it changed his feelings for me. After I told him about the hair loss, he had questions about why, but he was also relieved. He said he was afraid I was going to tell him I had cancer or something. And he didn't for a minute hesitate about wanting to continue getting to know me or meet me. We met in person after talking on the phone/computer for about 3 months, and he thought I was beautiful from the minute he laid eyes on me and sill does (except maybe when we argue about chores). In fact, sometimes I wish he'd take more interest in my hair loss. But while he does sympathize with my anxiety over it, it's not a big deal to him. So, my point here is not to ramble on about myself, but to tell you not to feel doomed. I was exactly in your position at 24 and would not have believed that I would soon fall in love and then be married at 26. But it happened, and now I actually sometimes remind myself of the pain and lonliness I had not long ago because those terrible times and feelings seem so far away. And I also hope you won't wait for a man to make you happy. I understand your longing for companionship, but you should do things you enjoy *now*, that'll also increase your chances of finding a companion. And even if you feel desperate, don't act out on those feelings because some unsavory men prey on desperate women, and you need someone who will be loving and supportive. I wish you the best! At Mon, 25 Sep 2000, Dave wrote: > >Dare I say it, it can even be hard for us married girls! I know what you are >going through, I thought that I would be single all my life. Now I worry >that one day he will find a skinny hairfree unstressed better model!!!!! I >do believe in the someone for everyone theory though, but Prince Charming >never turns up when you are looking for him, only nearly Prince Charmings >(so who is complaining....?!) >I wish you loads of luck in the husband hunting..... ! >>----- Original Message ----- >From: A <anonymous@obgyn.net> >To: Multiple recipients of list PCOS <anonymous@obgyn.net> >Sent: Monday, September 25, 2000 7:39 PM >Subject: Re: Single Blues > >> Hi Kathy... >> >> You are NOT alone!! I share those single blues with you every day!!! >It's hard >> out there, but I also hope to find the "one" someday!!!! Good luck to >you!! >> :-) Alexis >> >> Kathy wrote: >> >> > Hi All! >> > >> > This is my first posting, but over the last several months, this board >> > has been a great support to me. I am a 24 year old with all of the >> > wonderful symptoms of PCOS - facial hair, acne, overweight (5'7", >> > 205lbs) and few or no periods without the pill. The symptom I have the >> > greatest trouble with however, is poor self-esteem and depression. >Being >> > twenty-something is difficult enough if one is "normal," but dealing >> > with PCOS too can be overwhelming at times. In a society so focussed on >> > physical appearance, I often feel like I will never find a man who can >> > look past my appearance. It has sort of been inspirational to me to >> > read all the postings of you married ladies. It gives me hope. >> > Anyway, I was wondering if there is anyone else who is sharing my single >> > blues? I could use some words of encouragement. >> > >> > Thanks. >> > Kathy >> > New York >> > >> Next message: anonymous: "thanks to everyone" Previous message: anonymous@obgyn.net: "The Subject of PCOS"

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