Re: adopt or start clomid-- need input
From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Wed, 06 Sep 2000 08:56:30 -0500
And adoption is wonderful - I'm a 29 year old that was adopted at 5
days. But don't go into this with blinders on - the couple legally has
the righ to take that child back within, typically, six months. And
it's happened many times before. So just because you may know someone
who knows the couple, does't make it safer in that regard.
Then there are the other questions - an open adoption, or closed, and if
open, to what degree? To where the biological parents have visitation?
Or just letter writing and telephone calls? It's a lot to think about
(in addition to finding both birth parents, I've done extensive research
on the issue) - if you'd like to email me to discuss it, feel free.
At Mon, 4 Sep 2000, Janice wrote:
>
>Carrin, I can't share the "motherly instinct" feeling that most women
>have (long story--don't ask) but I have known a number of couples who
>have adopted children.
>
>These people were SOOO happy!! I remember the Sunday that my pastor's
>wife couldn't stop crying; they had just found out that they were
>getting a baby girl. I was only about 10 years old at the time, but I
>could feel the excitement that she felt.
>
>I know (or have known) at least five couples who have adopted children.
>Some adopted newborns; others adopted foster children. At least two
>couples were pleasantly surprised with biological children after they
>had adopted!
>
>So, my advice is this: Ask yourself which is more important -- that you
>share your love with A child, ANY child or that you share your genes
>(and love) with a child. To me, it would be much better to adopt a
>child than to go through a lot of medical things that may or may not
>work. Good luck, whichever route you choose!!
>
>Sep 2000, Carrin wrote:
>>
>>I read all the postings here and It really scares me. I am young to
>>this struggle with pcos, but I read everyone's postings and can't help
>>but feel a little discouraged. I don't know if the clomid will work--
>>there are no guarantees. I know that there are risks with adoption too,
>>but they are nothing compared to pcos. ARGHHHHH!!! I am so confused and
>>torn.
>>
>>please give me some advice......
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