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Re: adopt or start clomid
From: Monica (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue, 5 Sep 2000 09:28:29 -0500 (CDT)
Wat to go Carrin, God Bless you! Attitude can mean the difference
between failure and success (in a lot of other things, too) and you, my
dear, are headed for success! Keep your chin up. Yes, it's prudent to
consider both sides, but by chosing to be positive you can rise above.
Keep us posted, will you please. :)Monica
At Mon, 4 Sep 2000, Carrin wrote:
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>At Mon, 4 Sep 2000, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote:
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>sbond---
>Please know that we are making educated decisions about adoption....we
>simply didn't decide yesterday. We began researching it about a year
>ago, but put it aside until about 6 months ago and began looking at
>different agencies in our area.
>
>Thank you for your advice, and we have done some research about
>adoption.... we have always maintained that we would want an open
>adoption... a brief summary is below on some of the reason's why we
>chose this.
>
>reason one: because the birthmother would make it possible for us to be
>parents-- she chose life-- and she didn't have to. reason two: If a
>birthfamily is given letters/photos/visits they are less likely to
>change their minds about the adoption... because it will not be a
>mystery-- they know where the child is and he/she is well taken care
>of-- it is not final; they choose whether or not to see the child.
>reason three: I know who my biological family is, I know that the color
>of my eyes are the same as my maternal grandmother's, and all the things
>that made me physically who I am, or what diseases run in my family and
>we feel that is very important.
>
>for the record I don't know the birthparents in the situation I
>discussed... and I know that yes, they could change their minds, but so
>can I. I could become pregnant, I could not. I could miscarry, but
>maybe I would not. I am prepared to handle whatever comes my way. By
>choosing to be negative I would be choosing to sit the bench--- I can
>sit and cry about it or I can play the game. I choose to play the game.
>
>--
> carrin
>
>>I hate to sound negative, but I am an adopted child, and have found both
>>birth parents, and have done extensive research on this subject. The
>>birth parents have 6 months, typically, to take the child back. For
>>whatever reason. It happens probably daily, so regardless of how well
>>you know the couple, it is still a possibility.
>>
>>Also, decide what type of adoption - fully open, where there's
>>visitation, or just limited.
>>
>>At Mon, 4 Sep 2000, Carrin wrote:
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>>>Thank you all for your input!!
>>>
>>>My husband and I decided in about five minutes that we were going to
>>>pursue this adoption-- and if it doesn't work out we are going to try
>>>adoption again!!!
>>>
>>>Thank you all--
>>>
>>>--
>>>carrin
>>>
>>>ps I will be breast feeding
>>>
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