PCOS Messages for September, 2000: Re: adopt or start clomid-- to sbond1771

Re: adopt or start clomid-- to sbond1771

From: Carrin (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon, 4 Sep 2000 23:43:31 -0500 (CDT)

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At Mon, 4 Sep 2000, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote:

sbond--- Please know that we are making educated decisions about adoption....we simply didn't decide yesterday. We began researching it about a year ago, but put it aside until about 6 months ago and began looking at different agencies in our area.

Thank you for your advice, and we have done some research about adoption.... we have always maintained that we would want an open adoption... a brief summary is below on some of the reason's why we chose this.

reason one: because the birthmother would make it possible for us to be parents-- she chose life-- and she didn't have to. reason two: If a birthfamily is given letters/photos/visits they are less likely to change their minds about the adoption... because it will not be a mystery-- they know where the child is and he/she is well taken care of-- it is not final; they choose whether or not to see the child. reason three: I know who my biological family is, I know that the color of my eyes are the same as my maternal grandmother's, and all the things that made me physically who I am, or what diseases run in my family and we feel that is very important.

for the record I don't know the birthparents in the situation I discussed... and I know that yes, they could change their minds, but so can I. I could become pregnant, I could not. I could miscarry, but maybe I would not. I am prepared to handle whatever comes my way. By choosing to be negative I would be choosing to sit the bench--- I can sit and cry about it or I can play the game. I choose to play the game.

--
 carrin

>
>I hate to sound negative, but I am an adopted child, and have found both
>birth parents, and have done extensive research on this subject.  The
>birth parents have 6 months, typically, to take the child back.  For
>whatever reason.  It happens probably daily, so regardless of how well
>you know the couple, it is still a possibility.
>
>Also, decide what type of adoption - fully open, where there's
>visitation, or just limited.
>
>At Mon, 4 Sep 2000, Carrin wrote:
>>
>>Thank you all for your input!!
>>
>>My husband and I decided in about five minutes that we were going to
>>pursue this adoption-- and if it doesn't work out we are going to try
>>adoption again!!!
>>
>>Thank you all--
>>
>>--
>>carrin
>>
>>ps I will be breast feeding
>>

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