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For Tina (Horrible Doctor Visit)Michelle (Shocandle)From: Michelle (anonymous@obgyn.net)Mon, 21 Aug 2000 22:12:21 -0500 (CDT)
At Sun, 20 Aug 2000, Tina wrote: > >I recently self diagnosed PCOS. It was a wonderful and horrible eye >openor. I went to a support meeting to see if this is really what I >had. At the meeting a Reproductive Endocronologist (BAD spelling) >spoke. I talked to him afterwards and he was amazed that I had not been >diagnosed earlier, I have nearly EVERY medically known symptom. And >most of those symptoms that people who have it tend to complain of. >Anyway, he told me I needed to go to my medical doctor, talk to her and >try to get a referral if I felt it was needed. So I made my >appointment. Now I have moved to this area in the last couple of years, >but I have gone to her for others things, ya know colds, flu, blah blah >blah and she seemed pretty nice. Unfortunately what happened was not, >and I was devestated. Thank god for this site. I know this is long, >but I wanted to share for anyone else that may have this experience: > >When I got to the doctors office the nurse asked me what I came in for. >I explained to him what I had found out and he was VERY nice. He asked >for any sites that I may know of where he can do to look up this >disease. I was excited, it seemed the visit may go well. After about >15 minutes the doctor came in, I thought the nurse was looking up some >information.. BOY was I wrong. She walks in, slams the door and says, >what can I do for you. I started explaining the symptoms i have had for >the last eight years or so, since I hit twenty. I told her about the >severe weight gain, from 135 to nearly 300 in less than 2 years. And i >listed the other symptoms. I also explained that my family has a high >occurence of diabetes and heart disease, especially in the women. When >I got to the point of explaining what doctors have tried in the past to >help she suddenly jumped in. "So, you have PCOS, what do you want from >me" I just kind of sat there for a second looking at her. She then >started lecturing me on how "fat" people, especially women tend to look >for an excuse for being fat. And that she has had PCOS for 20 years and >is not fat, had children and never had the "side affects" everyone >claims to have. She told me that I needed to WORK to loose the weight, >a strict diet and excercise. "And I do not mean just a walk to the >mailbox and back" When I questioned her on new medical treatments such >as metphorin(?) she got very agitated. "You want me to write you a >prescitpion?? is that what you want? Fine, your insurance will not pay >for it but I will write it and you will waste your time". She kept >saying that I needed to excercise, that I was not eating right. But >never asked my how I felt, what was I eating, what had I tried. When >asked why I gained it so fast when put birth control, then gained more >when taken off she said "If I had the answer to all of these questions I >would be rich and doctors would be out of business" I tried to ask >several other questions with nearly the same effect. She then said "All >I can tell you is that you are going to die, you will get heart disease, >and have a heart attack, your legs will have poor circulation and will >probably have to be amputated from the weight, since you have not even >had a period in four years you will probably get cancer, so if the heart >disease does not kill you the cancer will". By this point she had me in >tears, I tried to calm and recompose but she would not stop. Finally I >got up and turned to the wall to try to recompose myself, I was so >ashamed for breaking down in from of her. When I kept trying to ask >things she got up, stated that we were getting nowhere and she had >already wasted 30 minutes with me, left the room and came back with a >name of a specialist, then told me to call her assistant for the >referral she does not want to talk to me anymore. > >When I left I was in tears. I nearly wrecked my car just trying to get >home, I felt so worthless. She made me feel like everything was MY >fault and if I was not so FAT I would feel better. She told me ALL I >had to do was exercise and it would ALL go away. Luckily I have a >supportive family and had done a lot of research, which showed that >excercise alone will not work. I know this is long, thank you for >reading. It is hard to put how I felt into words. I am now trying to >get my insurance company to change my primary care provider and writing >a letter to the Dr. including articles about the disease. I feel sorry >for any of her other patients that come to her suffering from this. I >am trying to keep hope, but people like her make it hard. > >-- >Tina M. Robertson >I feel for you Tina, It is going to be a rough and tumble road, I too have run into many many doctors that want to just treat me poorly because of my weight. I would call around and see if you can find a doctor that isn't so obsessed with the weight issue. I had a period for over a year and a half and I was afraid to go to the doctor, because prior to this I hadn't had one for 6 months, and the doctor blamed it all on my weight, well mostly everything turns out like that, then they treat you like a head case, instead of taking tests. Sigh, I hope things go well for you , you will find someone, do not give up. Write to me if you need to at Ryndle@aol.com Michelle
-- Michelle
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