Re: Message to ALL
From: Dave (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 11 Aug 2000 23:05:38 +0100
I did not mean that adopting part, the bit about not wanting to go through
labour.
>----- Original Message -----
From: "Randi2" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
To: "Multiple recipients of list PCOS" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
Sent: Friday, August 11, 2000 7:07 PM
Subject: Re: Message to ALL
> You don't honestly think you're being punished, do you?!?! How could
> adopting ever be considered selfish? You're being way too hard on
> yourself. My best friend doesn't want to go through childbirth. Since
> we were 11, she's gone white as a ghost at the thought of labor. She's
> adopting an international child now even though there's no reason to
> suspect she couldn't get pregnant. In my mind, she's a hero.
>
> At Fri, 11 Aug 2000, Dave wrote:
> >
> >I think I can relate in a way too. I promised my self that when it
happened
> >it happened, but to be honest, I am finding myself thinking of little
else.
> >I had a horrible row with my hubby the other night, because of it too. I
> >have got two friends at the moment who got pregnant by mistake (?) and
one
> >did not want to tell me because she was worried I would be upset. I was
> >pleased for her, but since her comment is when I feel like I got obsessed
> >with it. The other has only just given birth a short while ago, the baby
> >must be seven months old, and she is pregnant again already. She is very
> >young, and they struggle to make ends meet, but she is happy, so I am for
> >her. (When I do fall I hope I don't fall twice in quick succession, my
> >nerves would not cope!!!!!)
> >In a way, what makes it worse is that when I was little, I used to say
that
> >I was not going to have a baby of my own I was going to adopt, because I
did
> >not want to go through child birth. I wonder if I am being punished for
> >having selfish thoughts?
> >Anyway, I am keeping my fingers and toes tightly crossed for you. All the
> >very best of luck with the meds!
> >P.S On a brighter note, think of all the fun practising ttc!!!!!!!!!
>> >----- Original Message -----
> >From: "Anonymous" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
> >To: "Multiple recipients of list PCOS" <pcos@mail.medispecialty.com>
> >Sent: Friday, August 11, 2000 4:46 PM
> >Subject: Re: Message to ALL
> >
> >> Angela,
> >>
> >> I really understand what you mean. Sometimes I feel like the whole
> >> world is pregnant, and it gets harder everytime I hear of another
> >> friend/coworker that is pregnant. Yesterday, five minutes after I
> >> received the email that a coworker gave birth to a baby girl, I got the
> >> "negative" call from the doctors office.
> >>
> >> I was really depressed for quite awhile, and try to keep most of this
to
> >> myself. Not many people know of my problems, so I don't have much of
an
> >> outlet. But lately, I have taken the approach that what ever is meant
> >> to be will be. And I will approach it one day (or cycle) at a time. I
> >> also have had some help whenever I start to feel sorry for myself. I
> >> have the inspiration of my sister's best friend, who was diagnosed with
> >> MS at the age of 23. She has the best outlook on life, even though,
> >> five years later, she can barely walk and has many physical
> >> incapabilities that hinder her from the activites of most 28 year old
> >> women. She never lets anyone feel sorry for her, and never feels sorry
> >> for herself. So whenever I start to get down, I think of her.
> >>
> >> I don't know if I have helped you. I do know how you feel, with the
> >> disgust of those who mistreat their children, when we would love to
just
> >> have the chance at a child. Keep your spirits up and think positively.
> >>
> >> Krista
> >>
> >> At Fri, 11 Aug 2000, Angela wrote:
> >> >
> >> >Well today was my first day on clomid. I will be having an ultrasound
> >> >on Aug. 19 to see if there is any follicle developing. I have to say
> >> >that this is the scariest thing. It is hard not to get excited, but
yet
> >> >in the other hand the thought of disappointment is so hard.
> >> >
> >> >The doctor's and friends say to think positive, but how do you think
> >> >that way when the so many times before it has failed.
> >> >
> >> >Sorry for letting out hte emotions, but I feel here I can say how I
> >> >feel. And right now I am scared and angry. ANgry at the women that
> >> >have babies and don't want them, angry at the kids that have babies
and
> >> >don't take care of them.
> >> >
> >> >But then there is US. The women that suffer from this conditions, and
> >> >year after year try to conceive and can't. The feeling inside is
> >> >unbearable, everytime we wait for that call and the doctor says it's
> >> >negative instead of positive. Or losing that pregnancy that was sooo
> >> >hard to accomplish. Or even after the positive having to worry for 3
> >> >months that something will happen.
> >> >
> >> >For all the women, that have loss or tried to concieve and cannot. I
> >> >have you in my prayers everyday, wishing a beautiful child for you. I
> >> >know that a lot of you are going through this process right now.
Please
> >> >emial me at my private email. I would like for all of us to stay in
> >> >touch and give support to each other, during these clomids, shots,
> >> >inseminations. WRITE ME!!
> >> >
> >> >--
> >> >Angela Fausset
> >> >
> >>
>
> --
> Randi2
>
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