Re: Why this board is triggering to me.
From: Susan (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon, 31 Jul 2000 15:10:50 -0500 (CDT)
Dear MJ,
I standup and applaude your confidence, self-determination and courage.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I pray for the day
when I can stand eye-to-eye with someone and not let it intimidate me
when I notice their eyes wander down to my chin.
Sincerely,
--
Susan Steinman
At Mon, 31 Jul 2000, mj wrote:
>
>I post very infrequently here. The reason being not because i dislike
>this board but because it is too triggering to me. I am 33 and was
>diagnosed with pcos 3 years ago. Like many pcos, i am obese, have a
>beard i shave, no periods ect.
>When my chin hairs turned into a beard around the age of 27 it was
>devestating to me. Not because i was horrified it but i viewed it as
>one more thing society wont accept about me. You see i was born with a
>form of autisum, i went threw school is special ed. Acceptance was
>never part of me life. by the time i was in my 20's i no longer left my
>bedroom. Panic attacks and agoraphobia had clamed my life. My family
>hated me they found me to be one of the most unacceptable things on the
>planet. I was diagnosed with a large tumor, have had many surgeries,
>early stage cancer..in and out of hospitals. Even in the mental
>hospital. Why am I telling you all this?? Because one day i had had
>enough and it took a long long time, but i got better. I got a job,
>left my bedroom, went to college, learned to drive. At the age of 28 i
>was reborn. but i could only be reborn when i accomplished one thing,
>self acceptance. I started by threwing out my medicine cabinet full of
>hair removal products. I bought a good razor and decided i would shave
>everymorning at that was it. I would not be defined by my 6' o clock
>shadow. Of course this was only one change i made in my life. I no
>longer think much about my facial hair. just shave every morning and
>begin my day. But when i come here i get sad when i read so many posts
>about hair removal and comments like "what would i do if i ever ended up
>in the hospital and couldn't shave". We are taught to think facial hair
>is unacceptable on a women. I would like someday for society to view it
>as not acceptable or unacceptable but just another characteristic
>variety of the human race. so that is why i get triggered here. I
>would so like to see more of a focus here of self acceptance. We can do
>our part to change societal views by challenging our own thoughts and
>sharing it on the forum
>
>sincerley
>mj
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