PCOS Messages for July, 2000: About the original "insensitive" post

About the original "insensitive" post

From: A (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 28 Jul 2000 02:18:49 -0400

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Michelle..

I made the original comment about you getting in to a smaller size...and please (even though I know you have already) you shouldn't have taken it the way you did. I think it's absolutely fabulous that you're in a size ten and I'm also jealous that I'm not you!! But, from my point of view (and maybe a few of the other larger women) to comment the way I did (with my sense of humor) is simply a way for me to sometimes deal with my weight problem. Please let me tell you that I have NEVER been a size ten. You are lucky you caught on to your problem before it got out of hand! As a matter of fact, I cannot remember ever being smaller that a 14. And, if you can understand where I am coming from....recently going from a size 22 to a size 18 has made me see so much clearer....but...it takes ALOT of work. So, hopefully, you can imagine what I think of when I think of a size ten....something I can only wish I was..but doubt that I ever will be!

Also, being that this is a PCOS forum...it IS also a "hairy fat ladies" forum as well. Not only this, but it is also a forum which allows EVERYONE to share their stories..fat, skinny, short, tall...whatever. A comment about your size which was not meant to be negative DOES NOT mean that I think anyone is less sick than anyone else. We share OUR stories with one another. We MUST realize that some are sicker than us and some not as sick. I do agree that we must all be sensitive...but also think that we need to work on this together and not bicker about the small things.

I am sorry if I offended you....but I'm not sorry that I posted what I did. That is me...that is my sense of humor. I see a size 10 as quite an accomplishment and would not insult ANYONE for that accomplishment...I have no right to. Although unhappy with the way I look..I can deal with it. Yes, I'm trying to change it...but in the mean time, I'll continue to be me. Alexis

Michele wrote:

> Sometimes I feel like some of you feel that this is a "Hairy fat ladies"
> forum and not a pcos forum. Especially after a comment to one of my
> posts about getting into a smaller size. Her's was an insensitive
> comment.
>
> I am so thankful that my genetics did not cause me develop the hair
> problems and that we caught my pco before I was morbidly obese. I do
> feel so badly for those of you who have had to go through all the
> horrors of those symptoms which are so very visible.
>
> But, just because some of us are less hairy and less fat then some of
> the rest of us, doesn't make us any less sick, or have had as equally a
> hard time with this disease.
>
> In my case I was very sick when diagnosed, my insulin at 51 is one of
> the highest I have seen posted on the forum, I had hypertension, high
> cholesterol, skin tags, terrible pain and fatigue, infertility and a
> miscarriage. While I did not gain a 100 pounds, I did go from a very
> petite size 3 to a very short and fat size 14. So that was a lot of
> weight for my size. I was very close to becoming diabetic from this
> syndrome, even though I didn't look like the classic case. I've seen
> some of the girls here post better blood work who are a lot heavier then
> me.
>
> So hair and weight isn't necessarily the best way judge how severe this
> syndrome is in some of us, the best way is through our blood work. Just
> remember that while many with pco are obese and hairy, there are just as
> many of us who are not. There are many who might just be considered
> 20-50's overweight. Of course there are even some of us who have no
> weight problem at all.
>
> So while I feel for those you who have worse visible symptoms then I do,
> I know how hard that can be in our society, please realize that there
> are those of us not like you who suffer equally with this illness. We
> have been sensitive to you, so please would you be sensitive to the rest
> of us. michele
>
> --
> michele
>

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