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Re: Life is full of difficult choices, for example having a NervoFrom: Avalos (anonymous@obgyn.net)Fri, 30 Jun 2000 08:46:23 -0500
Just a quick comment to this message below.... Before I married I was thin, beautiful and just a normal person. I married at about the time that my PCOS started to go out of control and the weight really started to skyrocket... As I got bigger, I noticed that I was being treated differently in stores and public places... Even interviewing for jobs was different. However, the one place where I have experienced rude, biased and prejudicial treatment was in the area of ethnic prejudice. You see, I married a man who is from Mexico, and we speak Spanish about 90% of the time (I soud like a native, though I am not, I am actually not hispanic at all). Anyway, to get to the point of my story, over the past few years I have noticed that in restaurants we are always seated in far corners with poor lighting, in department stores we are ignored, and at social functions, people treat us like the hired help (invisible). This really pisses me off.... People are rude. They make fat comments all the time... They also hear us speaking spanish and assume we don't speak english, and the comments they make in those situations are UNBELIEVABLE! Sometimes I stay silent, but more and more often I am fighting back.... I have found that, especially in stores and places whose business is service (like banks), it really pays off to take my complaint about rudeness, comments, treatment, discrimination, etc. to management. (I always put my complaint in writing, and make a point of signing the letter with my full title... it gets my point across to corporate management LOUD and CLEAR). The person who wrote the message below is right, the higher up the chain you go, the more effective you will be, and the more likely it is that the company concerned will take your complaint very seriously and will take action to discipline the employee or dismiss him AND to be sure that other employees there (maybe elsewhere, too) are trained and instructed in how to perform their work in a courteous, respectful manner.... They have too much to lose to take the risk of ignoring you!!!!!! If you're up to it, then go to it, Ginger! Been there & done that, and it does work! -----Original Message----- From: anonymous@obgyn.net [mailto:anonymous@obgyn.net Sent: Friday, June 30, 2000 12:09 AM To: Multiple recipients of list PCOS Subject: Re: Life is full of difficult choices, for example having a Nervous Break Down vs. Being Charged with Aggrivated Battery (WARNING: Bad Experience VENT!) !!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ginger, I am so sorry. I would have been just the same way. Those brats are WEASELS. But you know, I kinda have to believe that people are they're own punishment. It's it's own self-contained divine justice that if people behave like animals, and walk around with vicious narrow minds and hideous inhuman behavior, guess what kind of life they wind up with? Completely isolating everyone but other cretins like themselves. You know? You walk around with a warm heart and an open mind and YOU attract THAT. (Well, not at taco bell, but most of the time I bet.) If I were you, I would focus on the fact that those brats have their heads up their rearends and find a way to pity them before you forget they exist. But if you can't, if you're too angry, there is no reason inthe world you can't go back tomorrow and speak with the manager. Figure, day time Big Wig Manager wouldn't be there later at night when youwere there before anyway. Call them, find out when manager is there. Go in in person (so you can point out the jerkypants' in person) and tell them you were appalled at their behavior. I don't care if the manager is 12. If they don't apologize and make you feel better, ask for the name and address of the Regional Manager (bound to be at least 21). Keep going up the line. The object is to threaten to involve soemone's boss unless you get get satisfaction. That should make them grovel pretty quick.
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