PCOS Messages for June, 2000: Re: ; avoiding old friends

Re: ; avoiding old friends

From: Kay (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 16 Jun 2000 18:29:00 -0500 (CDT)

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Yes, the big reunion is in Vegas this year (far away from me), my oldest, dearest friends will be there, my heart yearns to be there, but I just can't. I'm 150 lbs. heavier than I was 20 years ago and it's just too painful to let anyone see that right now. I haven't seen anyone for about that long--we were all army brats and moved alot. I read some messages on a reunion website about one of the teachers ("a big butt Bertha"), I saw how she was brutally attacked, even when I posted things about "maybe she couldn't help being so big" yada yada yada. No one would let up, so then and there I made the decision to not go. I'm still sad that I let them (those who really weren't my friends, but who will be attending) do that to me. I keep saying that maybe at the next reunion I'll be better. I've even decided that I'm going even if I'm not, but just couldn't do it this year. I've never been this type of person to avoid anyone for any reason, and it is hard to get way across the nation, etc. But I know if I was 100lbs or so lighter I would have worked nights at Walmart to buy the plane ticket to go. I guess I could've bought a shirt to wear that said something like "I am fat, I have a metabolic disorder that makes me this way, and if I hear anything about it remember that I'm bigger than any of you!" It's funny, cuz now that it's too late to register, I think my friends would've loved to see me no matter what size I had become. My loss...

-- Kay :o)Still smiling....learning lessons.

At Fri, 16 Jun 2000, donna wrote: > >Since high school I have gained 100 pounds (125 at 14 to 180 at 18)and >now 280, give or take a few pounds. Being heavy gives you the unique >experience of being able to see someone and look on the inside, not >relating in a shallow, judgemental way. The women I know who have pcos >, range in weight from normal to over 300 lbs, and are intelligent, >creative, kind, sympathetic, great wives and mothers,they are wonderful >friends, and some of them, actually all, are very good looking women.I >would rather be able to see people from my perspective and not from a >short sighted, ignorant perspective. Ignorance in our society is >appalling and just shows a lack of education, whether it is a doctors >opinion or an old friend. Arm yourself with facts and knowledge and >realize that someones opinion is NOT fact. Even on a bad day you are >probably a much nicer person that some people will ever be! >:)Donna

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