Re: Alexis: Re: Is anyone okay with their weight and NOT dieting??
From: A (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon, 22 May 2000 22:32:34 -0400
Karen, Karen, Karen!!
Just what I needed....thank you so very much!! It's words like that which will help me to "ask
him" when he returns from vacation!! Good luck to you & your future hubby & what a wonderful
story!!
:-) Alexis
Karen Robinson wrote:
> Sweetie, he's giving you back rubs -- GO FOR IT!!!
>
> I am 31. From the ages of 21 to 30, I owned my own invitation and hand calligraphy studio,
> specializing in weddings. I had 'love' in my office daily -- couples in love, planning
> their weddings, etc. But, I consistently worked 20 hour days and had virtually no life to
> speak of. I had one significant relationship when I was 24, ending when I was 27. The
> summer of 1997 -- I was 28 -- I met someone (let's call him Mark) through a friend. The
> chemistry between us was pretty amazing and, well, it was a pretty good six months :) But,
> he lived in Orange County and I lived in San Diego. So, it was a weekend thing which
> worked great with my work schedule - but it was FUN too! When it ended about six months
> later, I decided that I really liked the way I felt in a relationship- I was having fun,
> enjoying my free time (heck, I was MAKING free time!)... My best friend dared me to put an
> ad in the personals... And, I did... And, that's how I met my fiance! We've been
> together over 2 years now and are marrying May 2001. Point is -- sometimes you have to
> grow some cajones and put yourself out there. If he makes time to talk with you, gives you
> back rubs, etc -- he's giving you signs -- follow them up!!!
>
> One thing I use when I'm making a decision is this -- if I were 80 years old, looking back
> on my life, would I regret not doing whatever it is I'm struggling with? If YOU were 80
> looking back on this time in your life, would you have regrets if you didn't ask him out?
> Heck yeah!!! So, be brave -- ask him out. The worst thing that happens is he says no --
> the best thing? Let your mind wander! Have fun :)
>
> A D wrote:
>
> > Thanks for the words of wisdom Ivy!!
> >
> > Actually...yes, I have said Hi to him...on numerous occasions. We've known eachother
> > for about 6 years...he sometimes sneaks into my office to give me backrubs...but I
> > don't think he knows how much I really love them!!! I think your right...it's time for
> > me to start dropping the torpedos as you put it. He's on vacation this week :-(
> > ....but he better look out when he gets back....I think I'm gonna ask him out. Thanks
> > for the words of encouragement!! I think I'll try the "Ivy Approach" this time!!
> > :-) Alexis
> >
> > Ivy wrote:
> >
> > > Alexis,
> > > Have you tried saying "HI" to him? I'm probably not one to give advice
> > > here, I tend to be a fairly aggressive sort and have been told at
> > > different times that 1) I'm scary (I have a very good sense of self
> > > worth, and if you don't see that, Buddy, I ain't got time for you!) and
> > > 2) I'm not a typical girl (not real sure what that means. I'm not coy
> > > by any means, maybe thats part...whatever). I met my current sweetie at
> > > work, he was walking down the hall behind me, and I looked over my
> > > shoulder and saw him, did a double take, and sed, "You look neat-o."
> > > (Down right lyrical, ain't I?) He sed somethng nice to me, and then we
> > > went our separate ways. But in the next couple of weeks, things
> > > progressed. We've been seeing each other for over 2 years, and have
> > > pretty much agreed we're going to get married (nothing more firm than
> > > that yet, but that's enough for now.)
> > > So, that's My approach (damn the torpedos). Nothing ventured and all
> > > that. It isn't so much that I'm brave, it's just that I think if they
> > > don't respond positively to me... it isn't rejection, so much as they
> > > must be an idiot, you know? I decided long ago that I would rather be in
> > > No company than in bad company. I've been pretty darn lonely at times
> > > in my life, but I've SELDOM been unhappy because some bozo wasn't
> > > treating me right. And I prefr it that way, I can deal with not having
> > > a man for awhile, it's harder for me to deal with someone who is s'posed
> > > to love me being mean to me instead. Really confuses me when that
> > > happens. Then I get my head straight again and ditch them as fast as I
> > > can!
> > > Well, that's my take on things, sorry it was kind of long. good luck
> > > with your man situation, and do what feels best for You to do!
> > > Ivy
> > >
> > > At Sun, 21 May 2000, A wrote:
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> > > >I'm ok with it to a point. Let's see....I'm 26, have no significant other, work
> > > >alot, travel for work, don't go out much anymore......wonder if being overweight
> > > >has an impact on some of these things. For me, yes. It's always a very tight
> > > >squeeze into my seat on a plane. Don't go out because gals my age are wearin'
> > > >tube tops & looking a hell of a lot better than I do. Afraid to tell the man of
> > > >my dreams (who I work with) that I'm in love with him (I've heard that he feels
> > > >the same way....advice anyone???) because I'm afraid of the rejection. Other than
> > > >that...I've got a damn good life I guess.
> > > >Thanks for listening....this man thing is driving me insane.
> > > >
> > > >Thanks All!!
> > > >:-) Alexis
> > > >
> > > >Sonnet wrote:
> > > >
> > > >> Hello girls!
> > > >>
> > > >> Just reading all of the recent posts here about weight and diets and
> > > >> everything else, I am curious - is anyone here a big woman who is okay
> > > >> with that? I think I currently weigh about 330 (I am also almost 5'11")
> > > >> but to be honest - it doesn't bother me that much! I know I should low
> > > >> carb to keep my other symptoms in check; like the sugar problems, and am
> > > >> ttc. But every time I try it, it's just not worth it to me I guess! I
> > > >> have a fabulous husband, get flirted with constantly on the street,
> > > >> great friends, a decent job. Besides some problems like not fitting
> > > >> into airplane seats, movie theatre seats, or seatbelts... ? My life is
> > > >> pretty good as a large woman! I feel sexy! Granted there are sometimes
> > > >> moments, usually PMS moments, when it's horrifically depressing to face
> > > >> my image in the mirror. But for the most part, I am quite content to be
> > > >> this way. I can't possibly be the only one here, am I?
> > > >>
> > > >> btw, this post is not meant in ANY way to diminish the struggles of
> > > >> those of us trying to lose weight and hating their bodies! That is the
> > > >> worst feeling in the world and I am not trying to make anyone feel
> > > >> worse! instead, maybe this is a hopeful post???? :)
> > > >>
> > > >> -Sonnet
> > > >>
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> > > >I'm ok with it to a point. Let's see....I'm 26, have no significant
> > > >other, work alot, travel for work, don't go out much anymore......wonder
> > > >if being overweight has an impact on some of these things. For me,
> > > >yes. It's always a very tight squeeze into my seat on a plane.
> > > >Don't go out because gals my age are wearin' tube tops & looking a
> > > >hell of a lot better than I do. Afraid to tell the man of my dreams
> > > >(who I work with) that I'm in love with him (I've heard that he feels the
> > > >same way....advice anyone???) because I'm afraid of the rejection.
> > > >Other than that...I've got a damn good life I guess.
> > > >Thanks for listening....this man thing is driving me insane.
> > > >Thanks All!!
> > > >:-) Alexis
> > > >Sonnet wrote:
> > > >Hello girls!
> > > >Just reading all of the recent posts here about weight and diets and
> > > >everything else, I am curious - is anyone here a big woman who is okay
> > > >with that? I think I currently weigh about 330 (I am also almost 5'11")
> > > >but to be honest - it doesn't bother me that much! I know I should
> > > >low
> > > >carb to keep my other symptoms in check; like the sugar problems, and
> > > >am
> > > >ttc. But every time I try it, it's just not worth it to me I
> > > >guess! I
> > > >have a fabulous husband, get flirted with constantly on the street,
> > > >great friends, a decent job. Besides some problems like not fitting
> > > >into airplane seats, movie theatre seats, or seatbelts... ? My
> > > >life is
> > > >pretty good as a large woman! I feel sexy! Granted there are sometimes
> > > >moments, usually PMS moments, when it's horrifically depressing to
> > > >face
> > > >my image in the mirror. But for the most part, I am quite content
> > > >to be
> > > >this way. I can't possibly be the only one here, am I?
> > > >btw, this post is not meant in ANY way to diminish the struggles of
> > > >those of us trying to lose weight and hating their bodies! That is
> > > >the
> > > >worst feeling in the world and I am not trying to make anyone feel
> > > >worse! instead, maybe this is a hopeful post???? :)
> > > >-Sonnet
> > > >
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> >
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