Re: Alexis: Re: Is anyone okay with their weight and NOT dieting??
From: A (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sun, 21 May 2000 23:39:30 -0400
Thanks for the words of wisdom Ivy!!
Actually...yes, I have said Hi to him...on numerous occasions. We've known eachother
for about 6 years...he sometimes sneaks into my office to give me backrubs...but I
don't think he knows how much I really love them!!! I think your right...it's time for
me to start dropping the torpedos as you put it. He's on vacation this week :-(
.....but he better look out when he gets back....I think I'm gonna ask him out. Thanks
for the words of encouragement!! I think I'll try the "Ivy Approach" this time!!
:-) Alexis
Ivy wrote:
> Alexis,
> Have you tried saying "HI" to him? I'm probably not one to give advice
> here, I tend to be a fairly aggressive sort and have been told at
> different times that 1) I'm scary (I have a very good sense of self
> worth, and if you don't see that, Buddy, I ain't got time for you!) and
> 2) I'm not a typical girl (not real sure what that means. I'm not coy
> by any means, maybe thats part...whatever). I met my current sweetie at
> work, he was walking down the hall behind me, and I looked over my
> shoulder and saw him, did a double take, and sed, "You look neat-o."
> (Down right lyrical, ain't I?) He sed somethng nice to me, and then we
> went our separate ways. But in the next couple of weeks, things
> progressed. We've been seeing each other for over 2 years, and have
> pretty much agreed we're going to get married (nothing more firm than
> that yet, but that's enough for now.)
> So, that's My approach (damn the torpedos). Nothing ventured and all
> that. It isn't so much that I'm brave, it's just that I think if they
> don't respond positively to me... it isn't rejection, so much as they
> must be an idiot, you know? I decided long ago that I would rather be in
> No company than in bad company. I've been pretty darn lonely at times
> in my life, but I've SELDOM been unhappy because some bozo wasn't
> treating me right. And I prefr it that way, I can deal with not having
> a man for awhile, it's harder for me to deal with someone who is s'posed
> to love me being mean to me instead. Really confuses me when that
> happens. Then I get my head straight again and ditch them as fast as I
> can!
> Well, that's my take on things, sorry it was kind of long. good luck
> with your man situation, and do what feels best for You to do!
> Ivy
>
> At Sun, 21 May 2000, A wrote:
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> >I'm ok with it to a point. Let's see....I'm 26, have no significant other, work
> >alot, travel for work, don't go out much anymore......wonder if being overweight
> >has an impact on some of these things. For me, yes. It's always a very tight
> >squeeze into my seat on a plane. Don't go out because gals my age are wearin'
> >tube tops & looking a hell of a lot better than I do. Afraid to tell the man of
> >my dreams (who I work with) that I'm in love with him (I've heard that he feels
> >the same way....advice anyone???) because I'm afraid of the rejection. Other than
> >that...I've got a damn good life I guess.
> >Thanks for listening....this man thing is driving me insane.
> >
> >Thanks All!!
> >:-) Alexis
> >
> >Sonnet wrote:
> >
> >> Hello girls!
> >>
> >> Just reading all of the recent posts here about weight and diets and
> >> everything else, I am curious - is anyone here a big woman who is okay
> >> with that? I think I currently weigh about 330 (I am also almost 5'11")
> >> but to be honest - it doesn't bother me that much! I know I should low
> >> carb to keep my other symptoms in check; like the sugar problems, and am
> >> ttc. But every time I try it, it's just not worth it to me I guess! I
> >> have a fabulous husband, get flirted with constantly on the street,
> >> great friends, a decent job. Besides some problems like not fitting
> >> into airplane seats, movie theatre seats, or seatbelts... ? My life is
> >> pretty good as a large woman! I feel sexy! Granted there are sometimes
> >> moments, usually PMS moments, when it's horrifically depressing to face
> >> my image in the mirror. But for the most part, I am quite content to be
> >> this way. I can't possibly be the only one here, am I?
> >>
> >> btw, this post is not meant in ANY way to diminish the struggles of
> >> those of us trying to lose weight and hating their bodies! That is the
> >> worst feeling in the world and I am not trying to make anyone feel
> >> worse! instead, maybe this is a hopeful post???? :)
> >>
> >> -Sonnet
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> >I'm ok with it to a point. Let's see....I'm 26, have no significant
> >other, work alot, travel for work, don't go out much anymore......wonder
> >if being overweight has an impact on some of these things. For me,
> >yes. It's always a very tight squeeze into my seat on a plane.
> >Don't go out because gals my age are wearin' tube tops & looking a
> >hell of a lot better than I do. Afraid to tell the man of my dreams
> >(who I work with) that I'm in love with him (I've heard that he feels the
> >same way....advice anyone???) because I'm afraid of the rejection.
> >Other than that...I've got a damn good life I guess.
> >Thanks for listening....this man thing is driving me insane.
> >Thanks All!!
> >:-) Alexis
> >Sonnet wrote:
> >Hello girls!
> >Just reading all of the recent posts here about weight and diets and
> >everything else, I am curious - is anyone here a big woman who is okay
> >with that? I think I currently weigh about 330 (I am also almost 5'11")
> >but to be honest - it doesn't bother me that much! I know I should
> >low
> >carb to keep my other symptoms in check; like the sugar problems, and
> >am
> >ttc. But every time I try it, it's just not worth it to me I
> >guess! I
> >have a fabulous husband, get flirted with constantly on the street,
> >great friends, a decent job. Besides some problems like not fitting
> >into airplane seats, movie theatre seats, or seatbelts... ? My
> >life is
> >pretty good as a large woman! I feel sexy! Granted there are sometimes
> >moments, usually PMS moments, when it's horrifically depressing to
> >face
> >my image in the mirror. But for the most part, I am quite content
> >to be
> >this way. I can't possibly be the only one here, am I?
> >btw, this post is not meant in ANY way to diminish the struggles of
> >those of us trying to lose weight and hating their bodies! That is
> >the
> >worst feeling in the world and I am not trying to make anyone feel
> >worse! instead, maybe this is a hopeful post???? :)
> >-Sonnet
> >
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