Re: PCOS & No Sex Drive: A Connection?
From: Jennifer (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 19 May 2000 12:20:53 -0400
I am 25 and have been married about a year and a half. My husband and I
both waited until we were married to have sex. Unfortunately, I have
absolutely no sex drive!!! We probably have sex about once a month. One
reason is that sex is usually pretty painful for me (a condition my doctor
calls vulvadynia).
I also saw the Oprah show. I do not feel that my lack of sex drive is due
to guilt or any other such emotions. Even if sex wasn't painful, I doubt my
libido would increase significantly. I am sure it is hormonal!
By the way, does anyone else suffer from vulvadynia?
Kathy, thanks for sharing this. It is encouraging to know I am not the only
one...
Jennifer
>----- Original Message -----
From: "Kathy" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
To: "Multiple recipients of list PCOS" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
Sent: Friday, May 19, 2000 10:36 AM
Subject: PCOS & No Sex Drive: A Connection?
> I watched "Oprah" yesterday, and she brought up the subject that there
> are 40 million women out there who no longer desire sex. I have been
> one of those women, and I always thought that it had something to do
> with the fact that my hormones are completely screwed up. Does anyone
> else out there with PCOS have that problem? It's not that I hate sex, or
> don't enjoy it, it's just that I really don't care if I have it or not.
> My husband has been VERY understanding, although I know that he has gone
> through periods of anger and resentment. He feels rejected. I keep
> telling him that it is not him, it is me. Since I have been taking
> Metformin, things have gotten a little better. We do have sex at least
> 4-5 times per month now, as opposed to once every month or so! But, I
> keep telling him it is quality not quantity. And I do feel that the
> quality is better because I at least have a little more desire than I
> did. Before I felt that I was just going through the motions because I
> felt guilty.
>
> I would be interested in hearing from more of you. On "Oprah" they did
> not really discuss hormones at all except with a woman who had recently
> had a hysterectomy. All of the other women on the show were basically
> told that it was psychological. They needed to "fix" themselves so they
> could feel like a complete woman. Maybe that is true, but I really feel
> like there is something physical to this.
>
> Kathy
>
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