PCOS-MEDICATION Messages for May, 2003: Re: Tracy

Re: Tracy

From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Tue, 20 May 2003 23:42:40 EDT

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Tracy, So, you are saying because of her age factor, she can't be a responsible young adult mother? Are you saying she will automatically be on welfare, or she is already poor because she's 18????? Is that what you mean about its affects on taxes? It comes right back to judging her situation and background, we don't know anything about her, so how can we argue her financial state and bringing a child into the world? She didn't come to this forum for someone to tell her to grow up some more to have kids, she come here for medical advice. What if money is not a problem for her, does that still make a difference? If she has made up her mind and feel responsible enough to become a mother, I think she stands well by her on side to be a mother, Her question in the forum didn't state, that she is not financially able, so what if she was sitting on few dollars, what has changed for her to be a mother? Oh please don't tell me because she is 18yrs. old and coming into the next part of life, that doesn't make her any less of a person not to live it and learn. If she feels she is ready to become a mother why is that affecting you so much? A lot of us women on this PCOS forum have been trying to get pregnant for years now, because she is 18 doesn't gives her grounds to fulfill her fear of not having children later? Why shouldn't she act on something that she desires, that may not be promised tomorrow? I am sure that the girl has made this decision more than likely aware of the child's financial affair if she brings it into the world, again you are applying to situations you have seen in your past and present, you are forgetting the other percentage of girls who become pregnant accidentally or unplanned, that is where you should apply the situation of affecting the child's future. Now, because she is out on her own at 18 makes her less worthy on money ordeals for a child? This girl has chosen to become pregnant, and I am sure she knows that a baby comes along with responsibility, t herefore, I am sure she has put financial agendas together on how her child and her will survive, there are many successful people out there that has made it, with a young pregnancy in there past. So what about the people that have comfortable financial income status, with children who are missing love and attention? What happened in this situation? Does that make them better, enabling those parents to walk off with a pat on the back? No, the will child will still suffer. If she feels she is financially able and have the love to spread, good for her and leave it at that. So what are the differences when it comes down to it? The advice that she received from the forum wasn't advice she asked for; I feel it was just a lady trying to make a hero statement, showing she knows all for 18 yrs old future.

In a message dated 5/20/2003 2:56:36 PM Central Daylight Time, 3howells@charter.net writes:

> >>The point here is this girl isn't a child anymore, she has chosen her
> decisions carefully, and her finalizing >>results is what she has to live
> with, so I'm sure it wouldn't affect your life
>
> Could this be any more NOT true????? I've been staying out of this, but
> when I read this, I couldn't keep quiet any more. The fact of the matter
> is
> that SHE does not have to live with the results, the CHILD, who had no say
> or choice in this whatsoever, is the one who has to live with the
> results!!!!!! If the world would stop being so convinced that the minute a
> person turns 18 years old that they are capable of making any decision they
> wish, the world would be a lot better place. The fact is there are VERY
> FEW
> 18 year olds who have the experience, maturity, and knowledge to make
> decisions that will affect the lives of numerous people for years to come.
> The problem is, their experience, maturity, and knowledge lead them to
> believe that their decisions only effect themselves. And as far as it not
> affecting the respondent, or others for that matter...take a look at your
> taxes....a BIG chunk of tax dollars go toward funding programs for
> illiterate teenagers so they can take care of their illiterate children, to
> funding healthcare programs because the ill-prepared teenage parents can't
> make enough money without an education to take care of their children (sick
> or healthy), toward corrections programs because the teenage parents found
> out that a child was too much responsibility for them, so they just didn't
> care, and their kid ends up in all sorts of trouble because he/she had no
> guidance/love from the teenage parents. I am not bitter, I am not
> resentful, I am not trying to be offensive, I am being brutally HONEST!!
> If
> she (and others) can't take the truth, they shouldn't come looking for
> advice! This girl, and others like her, need to grow up and realize that
> having a baby will not make them mature adults, and they need to step out
> of
> their self-centered worlds and think about what kind of life they can
> REALISTICALLY provide to a baby/child!! *stepping off my soapbox now*
>
> Tracy
>

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