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Re: Per 2nd message posted earlier about 18yr old pregnancy
From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue, 20 May 2003 09:24:52 -0500 (CDT)
Yes, Ladies, you are all right. Sorry for my advice. To the 18 yr old
girl who wants to have a baby, good for you, it's your decision. You
are right Daehlia, I can't stop girls from making the same mistakes I
made.
Goodbye
At Tue, 20 May 2003, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote:
>
> I don't know if you are being resentful for bad decisions you or close
>ones have made in the past, but it shouldn't be directed to the 18yrs old
>lifestyle. The point here is this girl isn't a child anymore, she has chose
>her decisions carefully, and her finalizing results is what she has to live
>with, so I'm sure it wouldn't affect your life in anyway. I don't know if
>you have acquired any hard experiences with trying to conceive or not with
>PCOS, but her decision could have been based upon that reasoning.
> What you are actually telling her is her needs is to go to college and
>become something, so when she accomplishes her career goals in a few years
>from now, and maybe unable to have children, that her career and money
>successes are going to comfort her for her wants, therefore, because she wa
>convinced by your "all American get an education" speech for the future,
>doesn't amount to anything if you can't have a family with your fortune. Wh n
>a women has accomplished everything, except to conceive a child when she
>desires, makes everything you have ever worked for seem worthless.
>Therefore, I am all for her if she wants to have a child now and find her
>future later, it might be a bit harder to get there, but when she looks bac
>later, she chose her move enabling her to have family and fortune.
> I don't feel that I should be the one you owe an apology to, I feel it is
>the 18 yrs old girl, who you have made a wonder-women speech to who really
>needs your apology. Your right this isn't the forum to be discussing issue
>like this, you should go to the morality and common sense forum where they
>tear people down for independent decisions they have chosen.
>
>Daehlia
>
>Upset or not, children shouldn't be wanting to have children. The
>keyword here is "wanting", not making a mistake, everyone makes
>mistakes. The unmarried girl "wanted" to get pregnant. This is why
>America is the way it is today, because morality and common sense have
>gone out the window.
>
>However, this is not the place for this type of discussion. For that, I
>deeply apologize and promise not to give any more advice on morality and
>common sense. It is not my place to give advice. It just seemed a
>shame not to.
>
>Once again, I am sorry for my thoughts on this matter.
>
>At Sun, 18 May 2003, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote:
>>
>>PER MESSAGE POSTED EARLIER:
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>>I understand you trying to help this 18yr old girl with her life decisions,
>>but I feel the statement made to her was rude but encouraging in sort of a
>>bad sense. She is grown and able to do as she chooses, we all have made bad
>>choices, and whether they are mild to heavy choices, we gain a moral later
>on
>>down the line. She is not looking for a mother online, she is looking f r
>>comfort, the same as all of us come here for. She comes here to this fo um
>>asking for advice, and she gets chewed up and spite out. I felt your wo ds
>>were absurd and very inappropriate. I wouldn't want your advise in this
>>situation. I would honestly be upset at your words at a time like this.
>>
>>Daehlia
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