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Re: Per 2nd message posted earlier about 18yr old pregnancy

From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Tue, 20 May 2003 00:07:25 EDT

I don't know if you are being resentful for bad decisions you or close ones have made in the past, but it shouldn't be directed to the 18yrs old lifestyle. The point here is this girl isn't a child anymore, she has chosen her decisions carefully, and her finalizing results is what she has to live with, so I'm sure it wouldn't affect your life in anyway. I don't know if you have acquired any hard experiences with trying to conceive or not with PCOS, but her decision could have been based upon that reasoning. What you are actually telling her is her needs is to go to college and become something, so when she accomplishes her career goals in a few years from now, and maybe unable to have children, that her career and money successes are going to comfort her for her wants, therefore, because she was convinced by your "all American get an education" speech for the future, doesn't amount to anything if you can't have a family with your fortune. When a women has accomplished everything, except to conceive a child when she desires, makes everything you have ever worked for seem worthless. Therefore, I am all for her if she wants to have a child now and find her future later, it might be a bit harder to get there, but when she looks back later, she chose her move enabling her to have family and fortune. I don't feel that I should be the one you owe an apology to, I feel it is the 18 yrs old girl, who you have made a wonder-women speech to who really needs your apology. Your right this isn't the forum to be discussing issues like this, you should go to the morality and common sense forum where they tear people down for independent decisions they have chosen.

Daehlia

Upset or not, children shouldn't be wanting to have children.  The keyword here is "wanting", not making a mistake, everyone makes mistakes.  The unmarried girl "wanted" to get pregnant.  This is why America is the way it is today, because morality and common sense have gone out the window.

However, this is not the place for this type of discussion.  For that, I deeply apologize and promise not to give any more advice on morality and common sense.  It is not my place to give advice.  It just seemed a shame not to.

Once again, I am sorry for my thoughts on this matter.

At Sun, 18 May 2003, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote: >
>PER MESSAGE POSTED EARLIER:
>
>I understand you trying to help this 18yr old girl with her life decisions,
>but I feel the statement made to her was rude but encouraging in sort of a
>bad sense.  She is grown and able to do as she chooses, we all have made bad
>choices, and whether they are mild to heavy choices, we gain a moral later
on >down the line.  She is not looking for a mother online, she is looking for
>comfort, the same as all of us come here for.  She comes here to this forum
>asking for advice, and she gets chewed up and spite out.  I felt your words
>were absurd and very inappropriate.  I wouldn't want your advise in this
>situation.  I would honestly be upset at your words at a time like this.
>
>Daehlia

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