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Re: Question for Fergus.....
From: Shaundra (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 21 Mar 2002 16:39:31 -0600 (CST)
At Thu, 21 Mar 2002, Fergus wrote:
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>>>----- Original Message -----
>From: "Shaundra" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
>To: "Multiple recipients of list PCOS-MEDICATION"
><pcos-medication@mail.medispecialty.com>
>Sent: Wednesday, March 20, 2002 9:12 PM
>Subject: Question for Fergus.....
> I just wanted to thank you for writing. I wish both you and your girlfriend lots of luck in finding the right dr. when you move. I really know how tough that can be in between moving and having health care providers change...Its tough...But its a great feeling to find that special dr. or friend who will be supportive and help in anyway poss. Good luck.
>> I was just wonder how you took to finding out your girlfriend had pcos?
>[...]
>> I guess my question is did your girlfriend gain any
>> weight? Has it had an effect on you? I understand that beauty isn't just
>> on the outside...But I'm having a really hard time losing the wieght and
>> my self esteme is shot to shit...
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>Being diagnosed with any challenging illness is both a positive and negative
>experience, mostly negative of course. The negatives are obvious, but the
>positive is at least there is recognition and, hopefully, a course of
>treatment.
>
>My girlfriend has suffered symptoms including weight gain, excess facial
>hair, and periods that are both unusually long (4 weeks, for example) or
>unusually heavy. She also feels sick most of the time, so, while she has
>sexual desire, she usually expresses that she feels too awful to have sex.
>Yes, the symptoms of PCOS have affected us both.
>
>The weight gain has affected her much more than me. On many occasions I
>must reassure her that she is attractive because both the extra weight and
>the facial hair play havoc with her self-esteem. I do notice these two
>symptoms sometimes, but it's also not that big a deal to me. I want her to
>be happy and healthy, whatever her weight.
>
>The biggest problem is that between her crazy periods and feeling sick she
>doesn't feel up to having sex more than three times a month, sometimes less.
>That's just no fun for either of us.
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>> My boyfriend hasn't been supportive but hasn't been nonsupportive
>> either.
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>I'm sorry to hear that. It must be difficult to feel like he's not entirely
>there for you. :(
>
>It's not my place to give you advise about him or to judge him, but I will
>say that any partner who undermines your self-esteem either purposefully or
>by neglect is letting you down. I hope that we on this list can do a little
>something to support you.
>
>We all want to meet the image of beauty to which we're taught to aspire.
>Just remember there's no one out there who thinks her body is perfect. You
>deserve to be loved for who you are, irrespective of your weight.
>
>> We started dating alittle over four years ago when I was a
>> dress size 7-8 and now I'm a 16. I gained alittle over 50lbs in month.
>> It took alittle over a year and a half for someone to dign. me right.
>> Thank God I found that wonderful doctor or I'd still be searching for
>> the reason why.
>
>Yes, we had a somewhat similar experience. We're 6.5 years into our
>relationship. It sounds like your weight gain has been greater and faster.
>It also took my girlfriend a long time to be properly diagnosed and longer
>to get proper treatment. We've also found a wonderful doctor, and that's a
>godsend. Unfortunately, though, we're moving! :(
>
>In my non-expert opinion, you should eat a healthy PCOS diet, get exercise,
>and take Glucophage. Maybe these things will reduce your weight, but even
>if they don't, you'll feel better physically and probably emotionally too.
>You can't change the cards you're dealt, but you can change how you think
>about them and what you do about them.
>
>I hope you will let us know how things go for you. I don't think this
>disease is easy for anyone, but with appropriate treatment, I think it can
>be somewhat alleviated. The hardest part sometimes is remaining positive
>despite the changes you don't like. My opportunities may be modest, but
>anything I can do to support you is happily done.
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