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Re: Question for Fergus.....From: Fergus (anonymous@obgyn.net)Thu, 21 Mar 2002 09:23:10 -0800
>----- Original Message ----- From: "Shaundra" <anonymous@obgyn.net> To: "Multiple recipients of list PCOS-MEDICATION" <pcos-medication@mail.medispecialty.com> Sent: Wednesday, March 20, 2002 9:12 PM Subject: Question for Fergus.....
> I was just wonder how you took to finding out your girlfriend had pcos? Being diagnosed with any challenging illness is both a positive and negative experience, mostly negative of course. The negatives are obvious, but the positive is at least there is recognition and, hopefully, a course of treatment. My girlfriend has suffered symptoms including weight gain, excess facial hair, and periods that are both unusually long (4 weeks, for example) or unusually heavy. She also feels sick most of the time, so, while she has sexual desire, she usually expresses that she feels too awful to have sex. Yes, the symptoms of PCOS have affected us both. The weight gain has affected her much more than me. On many occasions I must reassure her that she is attractive because both the extra weight and the facial hair play havoc with her self-esteem. I do notice these two symptoms sometimes, but it's also not that big a deal to me. I want her to be happy and healthy, whatever her weight. The biggest problem is that between her crazy periods and feeling sick she doesn't feel up to having sex more than three times a month, sometimes less. That's just no fun for either of us.
> My boyfriend hasn't been supportive but hasn't been nonsupportive I'm sorry to hear that. It must be difficult to feel like he's not entirely there for you. :( It's not my place to give you advise about him or to judge him, but I will say that any partner who undermines your self-esteem either purposefully or by neglect is letting you down. I hope that we on this list can do a little something to support you. We all want to meet the image of beauty to which we're taught to aspire. Just remember there's no one out there who thinks her body is perfect. You deserve to be loved for who you are, irrespective of your weight.
> We started dating alittle over four years ago when I was a Yes, we had a somewhat similar experience. We're 6.5 years into our relationship. It sounds like your weight gain has been greater and faster. It also took my girlfriend a long time to be properly diagnosed and longer to get proper treatment. We've also found a wonderful doctor, and that's a godsend. Unfortunately, though, we're moving! :( In my non-expert opinion, you should eat a healthy PCOS diet, get exercise, and take Glucophage. Maybe these things will reduce your weight, but even if they don't, you'll feel better physically and probably emotionally too. You can't change the cards you're dealt, but you can change how you think about them and what you do about them. I hope you will let us know how things go for you. I don't think this disease is easy for anyone, but with appropriate treatment, I think it can be somewhat alleviated. The hardest part sometimes is remaining positive despite the changes you don't like. My opportunities may be modest, but anything I can do to support you is happily done.
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