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Re: Seriously Considering??From: Betsy Hyde (elishyde@connix.com)Sat Aug 8 22:31:08 1998
She is perfectly >free to plan any career she wants. But realistically she cannot choose >*both* to >be a full-time parent (which a child needs) *and* pursue higher education. >Unless you're willing to sacrifice the child's needs for the mother's desires >(which I, for one, am not), then youshould join me in telling her that >it's one >or the other, not both. > Add me to the heap of women and men who have sacrified their child's needs to their own selfish desires for higher education. I have been a single parent for 13+ years....ever since the day,just after I graduated from my master's degree midwifery program, when the orthopedic chief resident whom I put through medical school, internship, accompanied to 3 years in the Indian Health Service, and then back to surgical/orthopedic residency decided that parenthood was just not his cup of tea. Nor was marriage....at least to someone his own age. I went through Yale's masters' program as, essentially, a single parent .(Could one expect a surgical resident to do anything w/ childcare????) All child care responsibility (started the program with an 18 month old and a 3rd grader) were mine. Lots of third party helpers. Lots of family help. My kids shucked and jived with the best of them....had their little bags packed and ready to go. Got used to sitters, day care, and a crabby mom who tried her very best. But at least I was there for them.... My son graduated w/ high honors in History from Tufts. Now teaches history and coaches football and track in Las Vegas. Plans graduate school in international business law. My daughter was valedictorian of her class, early decision at Yale. Both kids are happy, well adjusted and love me dearly (usually...actually, Gabe always loves me, Kate generally does.) They are well aware who made the sacrifices in their lives, attended their football and field hockey games, went to their parent-teacher conferences etc. Being raised by a single mother who worked 60-80 hours per week seemed to have worked out just fine for them. Bob, would you have preferred that I quit school and been a stay at home mom? Or quit my job when my ex- decided he needed more wind in his sails, in order to take a different tack? How come no one expected their dad to make any sacrifices? Bob, your fantasy that all children require a full time, stay at home parent is just that....a fantasy.It is not substantiated in the child development literature. Neither of my kids ever had 2 full time parents. And at times, they had a part time, single parent. Both kids are well adjusted, productive members of society. Your views went out a long, long time ago. The majority of kids in this country do not have a stay at home parent. And some of them even turn out fine. As some other members of this list have said, you are just not dealing in reality.
-- Betsy Hyde CNM Branford, CT
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