Re: NYTimes.com Article: Op-Ed Columnist: Men Just Want Mommy
From: Anna Meenan, MD (annam@uic.edu)
Thu Jan 27 18:02:12 2005
I find the statement that men think women who have important jobs are
more likely to cheat on them very amusing. First of all, who would they
cheat with, since men apparently aren't interested in them, and second
of all, when would they find the time and energy?
Back in 1976, when I arrived at the Uof I med school, the med students
started a week before the nursing, PT, and OT students. The first night
in the dining hall, one of the men stood up and shouted "When are the
WOMEN gonna get here?" (right in front of about ten of us at the next
table)
--
Anna Meenan, MD
At Thu, 27 Jan 2005, rmodugno@aol.com wrote:
>
>The article below from NYTimes.com
>has been sent to you by rmodugno@aol.com.
>
>Do men "Just want Mommy?"
>
>Robert Modugno MD MBA FACOG
>Marietta, GA
>http://www.novaobgyn.yourmd.com
>
>rmodugno@aol.com
>
>/--------- E-mail Sponsored by Fox Searchlight Pictures ------------\
>
>SIDEWAYS: Nominated for 5 OSCARS including BEST PICTURE
>
>Critics in New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Chicago and Boston also agree...
>SIDEWAYS is the BEST PICTURE of the year. SIDEWAYS stars
>Paul Giamatti, Thomas Haden Church, Sandra Oh and Virginia Madsen.
>SIDEWAYS is now playing in select theaters and will open nationwide this Friday.
>Watch the trailer at:
>
>http://www.foxsearchlight.com/sideways/index_nyt.html
>
>\-------------------------------------------------------------------/
>
>\-------------------------------------------------------------------/
>\-------------------------------------------------------------------/
>\-------------------------------------------------------------------/
>Op-Ed Columnist: Men Just Want Mommy
>\-------------------------------------------------------------------/
>
>\-------------------------------------------------------------------/
>January 13, 2005
>\-------------------------------------------------------------------/
> By MAUREEN DOWD
>
>WASHINGTON
>
>A few years ago at a White House Correspondents' dinner, I
>met a very beautiful actress. Within moments, she blurted
>out: "I can't believe I'm 46 and not married. Men only want
>to marry their personal assistants or P.R. women."
>
>I'd been noticing a trend along these lines, as famous and
>powerful men took up with the young women whose job it was
>to tend to them and care for them in some way: their
>secretaries, assistants, nannies, caterers, flight
>attendants, researchers and fact-checkers.
>
>Women in staff support are the new sirens because, as a guy
>I know put it, they look upon the men they work for as "the
>moon, the sun and the stars." It's all about orbiting,
>serving and salaaming their Sun Gods.
>
>In all those great Tracy/Hepburn movies more than a
>half-century ago, it was the snap and crackle of a romance
>between equals that was so exciting. Moviemakers these days
>seem far more interested in the soothing aura of romances
>between unequals.
>
>In James Brooks's "Spanglish," Adam Sandler, as a Los
>Angeles chef, falls for his hot Mexican maid. The maid, who
>cleans up after Mr. Sandler without being able to speak
>English, is presented as the ideal woman. The wife, played
>by Téa Leoni, is repellent: a jangly, yakking,
>overachieving, overexercised, unfaithful, shallow
>she-monster who has just lost her job with a commercial
>design firm. Picture Faye Dunaway in "Network" if she'd had
>to stay home, or Glenn Close in "Fatal Attraction" without
>the charm.
>
>The same attraction of unequals animated Richard Curtis's
>"Love Actually," a 2003 holiday hit. The witty and
>sophisticated British prime minister, played by Hugh Grant,
>falls for the chubby girl who wheels the tea and scones
>into his office. A businessman married to the substantial
>Emma Thompson falls for his sultry secretary. A writer
>falls for his maid, who speaks only Portuguese.
>
>(I wonder if the trend in making maids who don't speak
>English heroines is related to the trend of guys who like
>to watch Kelly Ripa in the morning with the sound turned
>off?)
>
>Art is imitating life, turning women who seek equality into
>selfish narcissists and objects of rejection, rather than
>affection.
>
>As John Schwartz of The New York Times wrote recently, "Men
>would rather marry their secretaries than their bosses, and
>evolution may be to blame."
>
>A new study by psychology researchers at the University of
>Michigan, using college undergraduates, suggests that men
>going for long-term relationships would rather marry women
>in subordinate jobs than women who are supervisors.
>
>As Dr. Stephanie Brown, the lead author of the study,
>summed it up for reporters: "Powerful women are at a
>disadvantage in the marriage market because men may prefer
>to marry less-accomplished women." Men think that women
>with important jobs are more likely to cheat on them.
>
>"The hypothesis," Dr. Brown said, "is that there are
>evolutionary pressures on males to take steps to minimize
>the risk of raising offspring that are not their own."
>Women, by contrast, did not show a marked difference in
>their attraction to men who might work above or below them.
>And men did not show a preference when it came to one-night
>stands.
>
>A second study, which was by researchers at four British
>universities and reported last week, suggested that smart
>men with demanding jobs would rather have old-fashioned
>wives, like their mums, than equals. The study found that a
>high I.Q. hampers a woman's chance to get married, while it
>is a plus for men. The prospect for marriage increased by
>35 percent for guys for each 16-point increase in I.Q.; for
>women, there is a 40 percent drop for each 16-point rise.
>
>So was the feminist movement some sort of cruel hoax? The
>more women achieve, the less desirable they are? Women want
>to be in a relationship with guys they can seriously talk
>to - unfortunately, a lot of those guys want to be in
>relationships with women they don't have to talk to.
>
>I asked the actress and writer Carrie Fisher, on the East
>Coast to promote her novel "The Best Awful," who confirmed
>that women who challenge men are in trouble.
>
>"I haven't dated in 12 million years," she said drily. "I
>gave up on dating powerful men because they wanted to date
>women in the service professions. So I decided to date guys
>in the service professions. But then I found out that kings
>want to be treated like kings, and consorts want to be
>treated like kings, too."
>
>E-mail: liberties@nytimes.com
>
>http://www.nytimes.com/2005/01/13/opinion/13dowd.html?ex=1107830142&ei=1&en=c84255f82a600ecb
>
>---------------------------------
>
>---------------------------------
>Get Home Delivery of The New York Times Newspaper. Imagine
>---------------------------------
>---------------------------------
>reading The New York Times any time & anywhere you like!
>---------------------------------
>
>--
>---------------------------------
>Leisurely catch up on events & expand your horizons. Enjoy
>---------------------------------
>now for 50% off Home Delivery! Click here:
>---------------------------------
>
>http://homedelivery.nytimes.com/HDS/SubscriptionT1.do?mode=SubscriptionT1&ExternalMediaCode=W24AF
>
>HOW TO ADVERTISE
>---------------------------------
>For information on advertising in e-mail newsletters
>---------------------------------
>---------------------------------
>---------------------------------
>or other creative advertising opportunities with The
>---------------------------------
>New York Times on the Web, please contact
>---------------------------------
>onlinesales@nytimes.com or visit our online media
>---------------------------------
>kit at http://www.nytimes.com/adinfo
>
>For general information about NYTimes.com, write to
>help@nytimes.com.
>
>Copyright 2004 The New York Times Company
>
