Re: NYTimes.com Article: Op-Ed Columnist: Men Just Want Mommy
From: art fougner, md (evsono@pipeline.com)
Thu Jan 27 06:15:17 2005
Maureen Dowd, whom Zell Miller called a "High Brow Hussy" and Mark Steyn
described as "an elderly school girl," is still single ... imagine
that.
art
At Thu, 27 Jan 2005, rmodugno@aol.com wrote:
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>Do men "Just want Mommy?"
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>Robert Modugno MD MBA FACOG
>Marietta, GA
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>Op-Ed Columnist: Men Just Want Mommy
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>January 13, 2005
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> By MAUREEN DOWD
>
>WASHINGTON
>
>A few years ago at a White House Correspondents' dinner, I
>met a very beautiful actress. Within moments, she blurted
>out: "I can't believe I'm 46 and not married. Men only want
>to marry their personal assistants or P.R. women."
>
>I'd been noticing a trend along these lines, as famous and
>powerful men took up with the young women whose job it was
>to tend to them and care for them in some way: their
>secretaries, assistants, nannies, caterers, flight
>attendants, researchers and fact-checkers.
>
>Women in staff support are the new sirens because, as a guy
>I know put it, they look upon the men they work for as "the
>moon, the sun and the stars." It's all about orbiting,
>serving and salaaming their Sun Gods.
>
>In all those great Tracy/Hepburn movies more than a
>half-century ago, it was the snap and crackle of a romance
>between equals that was so exciting. Moviemakers these days
>seem far more interested in the soothing aura of romances
>between unequals.
>
>In James Brooks's "Spanglish," Adam Sandler, as a Los
>Angeles chef, falls for his hot Mexican maid. The maid, who
>cleans up after Mr. Sandler without being able to speak
>English, is presented as the ideal woman. The wife, played
>by Téa Leoni, is repellent: a jangly, yakking,
>overachieving, overexercised, unfaithful, shallow
>she-monster who has just lost her job with a commercial
>design firm. Picture Faye Dunaway in "Network" if she'd had
>to stay home, or Glenn Close in "Fatal Attraction" without
>the charm.
>
>The same attraction of unequals animated Richard Curtis's
>"Love Actually," a 2003 holiday hit. The witty and
>sophisticated British prime minister, played by Hugh Grant,
>falls for the chubby girl who wheels the tea and scones
>into his office. A businessman married to the substantial
>Emma Thompson falls for his sultry secretary. A writer
>falls for his maid, who speaks only Portuguese.
>
>(I wonder if the trend in making maids who don't speak
>English heroines is related to the trend of guys who like
>to watch Kelly Ripa in the morning with the sound turned
>off?)
>
>Art is imitating life, turning women who seek equality into
>selfish narcissists and objects of rejection, rather than
>affection.
>
>As John Schwartz of The New York Times wrote recently, "Men
>would rather marry their secretaries than their bosses, and
>evolution may be to blame."
>
>A new study by psychology researchers at the University of
>Michigan, using college undergraduates, suggests that men
>going for long-term relationships would rather marry women
>in subordinate jobs than women who are supervisors.
>
>As Dr. Stephanie Brown, the lead author of the study,
>summed it up for reporters: "Powerful women are at a
>disadvantage in the marriage market because men may prefer
>to marry less-accomplished women." Men think that women
>with important jobs are more likely to cheat on them.
>
>"The hypothesis," Dr. Brown said, "is that there are
>evolutionary pressures on males to take steps to minimize
>the risk of raising offspring that are not their own."
>Women, by contrast, did not show a marked difference in
>their attraction to men who might work above or below them.
>And men did not show a preference when it came to one-night
>stands.
>
>A second study, which was by researchers at four British
>universities and reported last week, suggested that smart
>men with demanding jobs would rather have old-fashioned
>wives, like their mums, than equals. The study found that a
>high I.Q. hampers a woman's chance to get married, while it
>is a plus for men. The prospect for marriage increased by
>35 percent for guys for each 16-point increase in I.Q.; for
>women, there is a 40 percent drop for each 16-point rise.
>
>So was the feminist movement some sort of cruel hoax? The
>more women achieve, the less desirable they are? Women want
>to be in a relationship with guys they can seriously talk
>to - unfortunately, a lot of those guys want to be in
>relationships with women they don't have to talk to.
>
>I asked the actress and writer Carrie Fisher, on the East
>Coast to promote her novel "The Best Awful," who confirmed
>that women who challenge men are in trouble.
>
>"I haven't dated in 12 million years," she said drily. "I
>gave up on dating powerful men because they wanted to date
>women in the service professions. So I decided to date guys
>in the service professions. But then I found out that kings
>want to be treated like kings, and consorts want to be
>treated like kings, too."
>
>E-mail: liberties@nytimes.com
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>http://www.nytimes.com/2005/01/13/opinion/13dowd.html?ex=1107830142&ei=1&en=c84255f82a600ecb
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art fougner, md
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