Re: Arrogance and Sensitivity (was Sterile too young)

From: Robert J. Woolley (wooll005@tc.umn.edu)
Wed Apr 19 06:55:22 2000


In message <fbbqfsg0b4itt5ov7ji0kiarv28btern3s@4ax.com> writes: The > pop psychology of women as helpless victims who cannot escape their
> social situations IMO is a sign of the current acceptance and
> rationalization of many types of improper behavior in our society and
> of our unwillingness to take personal responsibility rather than a
> fundamental human weakness.

Let me put it this way: it is just as absurd to assert that the abused woman is unable to stop the abusive pattern as to assert that the abusing man is unable to stop the abusive pattern. If you're going to insist on seeing both as stuck in a pattern and unable to break out of it, then at least you're being consistent. But the reality is that either party can end it if he or she is determined to do so.

I suspect we've all known patients who keep trying to quit smoking and fail over and over again, insist that they can't do it. Then they have the first heart attack or diagnosis of emphysema, and suddenly they quit successfully. What changed? Nothing about the nature of the problem, but something important about the motivation of the patient.

Those who say that women can't choose to leave an abusive home are buying into a similar false premise. The women who eventually *do* leave are the plain evidence that they can do so, when their motivation becomes sufficiently great.

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