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Re: sexless (To Barbara)...From: Heather (anonymous@obgyn.net)Thu, 3 Sep 1998 10:25:45 -0500 (CDT)
At Tue, 1 Sep 1998, Barbara wrote: > >Dear Heather, > >I understand your wanting good honest information about your wories >about not wanting sex with your husband. This is a very important and >beautiful part of a marrige and when it is missing for whatever reason >it is painful for both partners. > >Heather aare you a stay at home Mom or do you have a job that you go to >along with being a wife and Mom? This is a very exhausting life if this >is what you do and being exhausted makes it difficult for us to feel >romantic, we are just pooped! > >Have you spoken with your husband about being tired, (if this is the >case)? Perhaps he could help you out with some of the chores like >grocery shopping, cooking or some other things that you have to do at >the end of the day. > >I was a stay at home Mom with 4 children and I was pooped most of the >time and went through periods when all I wanted to do when I hit the >mattress was Go To Sleep! > >If this is not the cause of your lack of sexual feelings why not speak >with your physician and see about going to see someone that deals with >sexual dysfunction. It's Not Uncommon.....You are not alone in these >feelings. You just feel alone. I should not take but a few visits to >help you and yuour husband gain a renewed feeling of pleasure in your >life together. > >I hope the best for you, >Barbara > >>> Sun, 30 Aug 1998, Heather wrote: >>>> >>>>I have been married for almost three years now, have one child. I no >>>>longer want anything to do with sex or my husband; I don't even look at >>>>other men! I have been diagnosed with vulvar vastitis, but feel that it >>>>no longer bothers me. I don't know what's wrong. I'm only 22 years old >>>>and act as if I'm 50! Please help! >> >>M, >>The reason I wrote was to try and get some help, not criticism. This is >>really a problem for me and my husband. Looking at other men (if you're >>a woman), or looking at women (if a man) that are attractive is supposed >>to be totally natural for humans. Yet, this is not so for me. I could >>care less is I ever had sex again with my husband. I don't want to be >>with anyone else. >>So if you hve anything helpful to say, please write back, otherwise... > >-- >Barbara Nesbitt >Editor, OBGYN.net > Barbara, you asked if I was a stay at home mom or if I work. I am a mom, wife, college student, and run my own business on nights and weekends. I am happy when I am busy doing things. But I can see how tired all this would make me. My husband does help out with things at home - he really does more than I do (which makes me feel guilty sometimes). I often feel as if our gender roles are reversed - he the wanting/needing wife, me the uninterested husband-strange, huh? Anyway, thanks for writing me and helping me out. I really appreciate it! heather
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